[DATING]Question - Could You Go Out With Someone Who Makes More Money Than You?

I think that if my wife made good money then my job wouldnt' be as stressful, I knew that if things didn't work out at my job, then we would be ok if I were to quit/get fired/ or even want to go back to school and get my MBA.

That would be great, for me, the less stress the better.

 

ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY.

Sincerely,

 

definitely.

i mean if she's making sandwiches and making a good living doing that... then of course , being a supportive husband, I'd sit on my ass all day and watch sports

 

I'm going to be a lawyer and my future wife is going to be a doctor. She works a lot harder than I do and is doing things in med-school that I can't even imagine understanding. She'd better make more money than me, otherwise it's not fair at all considering the amount of effort going in. The main thing i worry about, though, is she's not going to have much free time for the next, oh..ten years.

And when you date a lawyer, the problem isn't the money. The problem is that lawyers are so full of themselves and believe that since they went to law school they can win any argument. So prepare to be on the losing end 4EVER.

MARZIPOWNED!!!!

 

HELL TO THE YES....I am cool with it

 

I could and have. I have no problem with my significant other making more than me but I would have a problem with them supporting me. I would like to know that I can still provide for myself.

On a related issue I've dated two girls who came from wealthy families and felt it a little odd. Its one thing to be dating a women who's hardworking and brings home a lot of money and another one who's lived with money all her life and still gets money. Then I always felt a little odd when she would be buying me gifts on daddy's credit card and driving me around in her fancy car.

 

McMANUS:: How about it, Keaton? You a lawyer's wife? What sort of "retainer" you giving her?

 

Yeah - I can see where that'd be pretty awkward.

 

"You can marry more money in 5 minutes than you can earn in a lifetime."

Or

"Its just as easy to fall in love with a rich girl as a poor girl."

 

I most certainly could. Although, anyone with a full time job paying $8.00 an hour makes more than me. So it's not that hard. But I wouldn't care if I were the one making all the money. It's about love & feelings & mushy gushy crap. Not about paychecks.

 

I'm a big fan of the idea of my my other half making more money than me, but i know one person who has a wife who was a doctor. After buying a half million dollar house, she decided she wanted to be a stay at home mom which meant the guy had to quit his job that he had been at for 15 years and get a job he didn't want, but paid more money to pay for the house.

Another guy I know has a wife that makes about 3 times as much as him and she's always on his ass to get a job that pays more or to go to grad school. He's currently a teacher and loves it.

That said, I hope my girlfriend starts making a bunch of money and doesn't mind if I quit working my 9 to 5 job. Working is for suckers.

 

Of course! My wife makes more money than me and evrything is great! It doesnt matter who makes more money........I have to go now.....the laundry is finished!

 

Being a musician, it is virtually impossible for me not to date a woman who makes more money than me...

Maybe I could go cruise the welfare line.

 

I would definitely have to hold my "macho" thing to say that this is the '00s, and won't be the first or last person to have that situation. As it stands now, it ain't the case, but I bet when she finishes more school time, she'll be gettin' paid much more than me if I stay where I stay.

 

Hell yes...I'll not only go out with her, but bang her too...

Its not about the money, as I don't mind paying the check for dinner, etc., but every once in a while, its nice to have someone else get the check...Good luck with that...

 

Well, the good news is that you guys aren't intimidated by it. The bad news is that it looks like y'all are getting lazy.

I'm a little bitter because I'm coming out of a very long relationship in which the other person was lazy and lived off me. The worst was when I was making 32-35K a year (and I should have been saving that up because it won't last) and he was making nothing. For two years. Look, you don't have to make that much, but you should at least spend as many hours a day on either housework or active job hunting as I spend on work. I'm not even that rich, and I have an uncertain future/ may want to go back to school so I won't be able to support another person anymore, but on the other hand I would never ask anyone else to take care of me.

I just feel used and hurt that someone would take advantage of the situation to have his comfortable lifestyle financed by me - health insurance, vacations, etc. - and not be pulling his share of the load or acting like a better partner. Especially when he was 13 years older than me. Oh well, I digress. Just make sure you guys don't take advantage of some naive girl who at least has a steady job. I think it's repulsive enough when women live off of men for no reason, but it hurts that a guy can't even want to help take care of the person who's special to him (or at least keep her from having to ask for extra hours, etc., just to support his lazy butt).

 

How come every relationship thread has to turn into an As the Isabel Turns thread?

Just kidding Isabel, hang in there.

 

Should things start to become serious, just make sure that you are up front. You can say I like my job, and career, and it might not ever pay as much as yours. I hope tht won't be a problem for you. Initially don't even worry about it. Just see how you get along.

In dating and being married to my wife. I made substantially less than her, about the same as her, and substantially more than her. I don't really require a lot of material things, so it isn't that important to me. Though when we plan, we just talk about our combined money, and not who makes what. I don't require anyone to match my earning, and I would never be happy if someone required me to match theirs. I just think it is important that both people contribute. If it isn't with money, then the can contribute support, cleaning, taking care of the bills, or whatever will help the bread winner. The only thing that is important is that both people are happy with what they are doing and that both contribute to the betterment of couple.

 

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The next question for guys is if you were to marry someone who's making a lot more money than you and she wanted you to sign a pre-nup would you do it?