Using the broad generality is usually the way to approach these things. Though I'm assuming you mean its more people who used to be fit and then got fat later are the miserable ones, cuz its a more hard fall going from top to bottom. Girls or guys who have ALWAYS been big are more well adjusted to their weight. If a girl was 200 in high school then 208 after marriage, dont see how thatd be a personal pitfall for her. But a girl that was a healthy 125 then ballooned up to 185, yeah can see how that'd had an adverse effect Consenting adults only have to agree to each other's terms. Not like it means it has to be THE dating standard across the board, just a personal standard to those few. 3 somes in a relationship wont cripple society. Especially if everyone in it is hot
Become friends/acquaintances. Investigate. I find it fairly easy to spot red flags early. In this age of Facebook, it's even easier than it has ever been. How she dresses, how she speaks, her manners and upbringing, the type of company she keeps -- these are all things you can easily discern without having to get into a romantic relationship. Unlike a lot of people, I am very content in my bachelorhood and don't date to "satisfy a void" or because I feel lonely. I don't need a temporary fix, and I have no interest in experimental dating and all the heartbreak and scars that come with it. I will search and find the right woman, but I'm willing to wait and put in the effort to find a woman that's really worth making my life companion.
News to me. It's been my experience that people who have accomplished so damn little that they need to act like a trim waistline is an amazing achievement and a testament to their iron will are the miserable ones. They are also the ones who get ANGRY when they encounter a fat person who doesn't hate themselves enough, because it devalues their "achievement" Fat people...some are miserable, some are so happy it puts me into a sugar shock just to be around em' Same as everyone else.
