obviously, this. dude, YOU'RE 40 YEARS OLD! How do you even have the patience for these games? My advice: 1. start dating women your age or older (that will eliminate a lot of game playing). 2. take a pass on any women still interested in playing games 3. act your age 4. a little security/self-confidence can go a long way 5. chad's advice - meet her or don't "I don't know if you're playing games or not, but I'm really not interested in that. I like you. I want to get to know you, but if you're not going to be real, I don't have the time." Try it.
What..... Here's your first problem... STOP TEXTING. Pick up the phone and call her. Are you afraid to speak with her? That's the problem with some of you young guys today. Just man up and have a conversation with her. I can promise you it will go better in your favor. Secondly... As Hayesfan said, stop trying to play games dude. You're thinking way too much. Stop watching the movie Hitch and be a man.
I think you missed your window. Now you aren't mysterious, and you're headed into annoying country. Bone up on this: Ladder Theory.
LOL, ouch. Painful, but true.... If you're really 40 years old, you are WAY too old to be playing these silly games. Stop getting your dating advice from the movie Swingers.
I am 100% sure she doesn't like you. Remember the Ladder Theory? You're a couple rungs down, which means you get bumped for other guy(s). Or even if it wasn't a guy she cancelled your date for, it still means she's not feeling that enthusiastic about going out with you. You're overthinking this way too much. She isn't playing games with you...she's just, well...not that into you.
Here's what you do. Set up a date but arrange to pick her up at her place. When you get there ask if you can use her bathroom and out of spite wash your junk in her sink. Seriously if you like her go out with her and if it doesn't work out it doesn't work out. If it does it does. Hamletting over this is only going to mean that if you do go out with her is going to make sure that you act more awkward when you do go out.
How can you expect to have a successful relationship with a woman when you've already INTENTIONALLY laid a foundation of mistrust, suspicion and deceit from the get go? Plus, you're quite the drama queen for a guy. You already screwed up the relationship from your very first text. Reset, rethink your approach and try again.
Human communication is about a lot more than just the words, it's about context and inflection in a conversation and about body language and visual clues in person. Just texting between the two of you leaves both of your interpretations open to mistakes and are subject to the biases you both are obviously bringing in to this; you lack of self confidence for one.
We're getting too deep in this ish. The problem was that you really didn't have other things or interests to do. If you want to play the game. Go all in and play the game. It's stupid and childish, but at the very least you get laid instead of writing about it on here.
Yeah i didnt check the birthdate either....i thought this was a guy in his early 20s... So how old is she? If she's 40 also i can see why she'd cancel you're date. At that age some women arent looking for anything serious, usually just some company (friends). Sure, there's exceptions, but someone younger usually has dating as a higher priority as they attempt to settle down.
It was stupid to guilt trip her by saying wow okay. You look like a little lapdog that just got butthurt.
Agreed. A better response would've been a text of "huh? what are you talking about?" Wait 10 minutes, and then a follow up of "Ohhh, right, we were supposed to hang out today. Yeah sure, maybe some other time"
