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Damn...I Am So Lucky to Be Alive!

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Manny Ramirez, Jul 9, 2002.

  1. Vengeance

    Vengeance Member

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    Personally, I never understand why people are so irritable when they're driving. The world won't end if it takes you a few more minutes to get somewhere. There's no need to have that space right up next to the front of the store, so don't fight for it as if it were something important. The world, and your appointments, whatever isn't so important as to kill people over. Even if people aren't late, they drive around as if they are. Just be patient and calm. No need to work yourself up over nothing.

    In the grand scheme of things, how important is it to be at Walmart three minutes earlier than the guy going the speed limit?
     
  2. Stevierebel

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    I have an experience...

    Today, I am driving down my street with my brother in the car. This guy backs up into my car claiming he didn't hear my horn or seeing me. He admitted fault but as he was hitting me, he kept his foot on the gas pedal causing his car to go up a little. Well, now he is stuck with a big bill (estimated around $1,200).
     
  3. Manny Ramirez

    Manny Ramirez The Music Man

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    Thanks everybody for the tips and hints of trying to go slow.

    It's going to be tough, but I'm gonna try my damndest to go slower. It's just that bad habits are hard to break sometimes. Next time, I may not be so lucky.

    I can't help but keep thinking about it. It gave me a bad headache and my stomach ached for the longest. I finally feel better, but only after lying down for awhile.

    Maybe looking back at this, I will laugh and say "I'll never forget when I drove my car like the General Lee." But of course, I can't help but think how absolutely scary it is when you lose control of a vehicle.

    As I said before, thank God that no one was coming in the opposite direction.
     
  4. Puedlfor

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    Just remember this feelling - get it in your mind and never let it go. That will cause you to drive safer, it worked for me.
     
  5. mr_oily

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    Don't try – just do it!
    (From Active Mind-Body Health Newsletter Issue 18: 9 January 2001 )

    You know the situation – you meet a former acquaintance in the street, chat a little awkwardly about what's been happening in the years since you last met, and as you part to go on your separate ways one person says “We must try and get together, sometime!”

    Or you ask someone to do you a favour and they reply “OK, I'll try and get that done.”

    Now imagine I said to you “I want you to try and touch the tip of your nose with your index finger” you would likely find that a strange request, providing you were not in some way disabled. It's easy to do it, there's no chance of failure, so why use “try”?

    However if I asked you to “Try and touch the ceiling” that would sound and feel more sensible. Because there's no certainty that you can touch the ceiling – most ceilings are too high.

    What comes out of all of these examples?

    That we only use the word TRY when we expect or assume failure!

    “We must try and get together sometime” means something like “I thought I'd got rid of you and I haven't the assertiveness to tell you I hope I never see you again!”

    “I'll try and get that done” means “I am not going to tell you I cannot or will not do it – but don't hold your breath waiting for me to do it!”

    But it's only a figure of speech
    Perhaps. But figures pf speech often give strong clues about what is going on in the background. They can be a form of leakage from the underlying emotions. Especially if you listen to them carefully and take them literally.

    Words like 'try' indicate what we are really thinking – and, perhaps, do not want to admit even to ourselves.

    The words you use sub-vocally in your self talk affect your mood. And the words you use out loud affect both my your own and other people's moods.

    “Try” creates doubt – in your own mind and in the minds of others - and suggests that it is unlikely that you will succeed.

    Replace 'try' with 'will'
    Us it for a while and decide for yourself if it makes a difference to how you feel and to how people respond to you.

    Instead of

    “I must try and start exercising”

    “I will try to give up smoking”

    “I will try to eat more healthily”

    “I will try to be nicer to people”

    use “I WILL begin exercising etc.”

    What if I'm not sure that I'll succeed?
    That's OK. You do not have to be sure you'll succeed before beginning something.

    It is OK to 'fail'.

    'Try' is a way of insuring ourselves against the bad feelings we associate with failure… “But I didn't say I WOULD do it! I just said I'd TRY!”

    Make a decision that it is OK to not get everything right every time and you'll feel a lot better saying “I will…”

    The other side of this coin is that if you do not say “I will…” you are not fully committed to it. You're giving yourself a get-out clause – just in case.

    Commit – fully
    Commit fully – or don't bother. If you do not commit fully you are kidding yourself. You are pretending to yourself that you are going to give something your best shot whereas in fact you are going into it prepared to fail and with your failure alibi ready in advance.

    When you commit fully you are arming yourself with a belief that you will succeed – do this and you're half-way there before you even begin.

    >>>>>>>OR just slow the f*ck down!:D<<<<<<<<<<<
     

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