[couples question]Live with a significant other before marriage?

Amen. I really recommend pre-marital counseling. Many churches will do it for free, and some don't even stress God if you aren't into that (though I am and I also recommend that aspect)

Getting comfortable with the money part is VITALLY important.

 

Lady_Di, you're Mexican... so... ehh... that means YOU'RE PREGNANT ALREADY. Move in!

OR

If you DO move in, prepare to be ridiculed by your ENTIRE family for living in SIN. " ¡¡¡NooOoooOooo... M'ija NO!!!" [" not my daughter! " for all you non-Mexican folk ]

 

I think it's ok, but you should have your own place still. Incase something goes wrong or doesn't work out. Until you actually get married and all that, it's still going to be "his place." You may flex your influence on the house a little, but at the end of the day it's still his house until you are married.

Just my take.

 

That is part of the problem with it imo.

 

You're welcome.

Well, I say NO. A gentleman will wait for his Di.

Whose idea was this? Meaning, who asked whom? This "we" business had to start from someone's mouth or mind.

 

unless you're ready to **** his **** every night, all while he *****blasts your *** at the same time ******* your *****, it will never work.

just my two cents.

 

Rocketman95 is back, everybody! Hurray!

 

I think you need to make this decision without taking marriage into consideration. Do you feel comfortable and secure enough in your relationship right now to move in with him? That is the only thing that matters since the future is uncertain.

 

F that crap. "Oh, hey... you know... I wanna marry you some day..." <- WTF kind of crap is that?

It's either "Lady_Di... [gets on one knee... pulls out the ring] will you... MARRY ME?" -OR- NO MENTION OF MARRIAGE. Period.

So I proposed to my wife AFTER we got knocked up but she's the one I wanted kids wtih. Was that proper? No. We took care not to get prego, but the first time we didn't, SAS!

 

It was probably the best thing I ever did, but it was hard. It is a HUGE difference from living on your own as anyone would expect. To be honest, me and my now wife have lived in 1 bedroom for most of our relationship (6 years, 1 year of marriage). ONE ROOM but I almost attribute that to the success of a marriage we have now. I would sincerely recommend it, just the way we did it, to anyone and everyone... all the aggravation, humiliation, fighting was so worth what we have now.

 

ZAS*

 

Doesn't Texas recognize commonlaw marriages? (live with someone for so many years and its considered technically a marriage)

 

I suppose I'll share in the fun:

My bf REPEATEDLY asked me to move in with him. I told him that I'm just not comfortable with it. I'm sort of in the "I want a ring on my finger first" camp, though I'm not hardset on the issue. But it's still a huge step, one that I'm not ready for - we discussed where we are as a couple, what our plans for the future are, all the good stuff, even finances. We made the decision to wait for a while, keep it on the back burner, re-evaluate at a later point.



If you're not absolutely chomping at the bit to move in, then it might not a good idea or not good timing - it could be better to wait.

 

Let's put it this way

my daughter is 15, and we have been married 13 years.

We lived together for three years before marrying...it comes in handy to see if yall really mesh well.

If it doesnt work out, then you split without dealing with the hassle of divorces.

 

3 months? Man, that seems too soon for such a big step, even though you just got back together. I'm of the school of thought that if you break up, you break up. If it gets so bad you actually call it quits, then you or the other person didn't feel like your relationship was worth fighting for.

You know the deal, do what you are going to do. If it were me, I'd be pretty wary of the situation. Take your time. If you are goign to get married, then you've move in eventually. What's the big rush?

Also, why is he buying a home now? I bought a townhome when I was with my now fiance. NOW we are looking for a home we buy together. To me, buying a home is more of a couple thing, where both get to chose the house they plan to live in. Right now, you'll be moving and living in a home he chose.

 

You should work on being careful with your words. I KEEEED.

 

duh edit

it takes more than that, you must pass yourselves off as married or something like that....Im not positive on the rules, but it takes more than just living together.

 

Random thoughts:

[We use brackets] way too randomly on this board.

I thought Lady Di's problem was being married to a guy she wasn't living with, not the other way around.