jgreen irks me alot of times with his posts but i somewhat agree with him here. whenever i tell someone "i just want some space" or "it's not you, it's me (i'm sure everyone's heard that speech)" it usually means i want to get away from that person. it doesnt' necessarily mean i have someone else, but it does mean i'm not particularly interested in spending time with you. just my obervation. good luck RM95.
i am so sorry. my stomach just dropped. whatever you need, i'm here. i know you have tons of friends who feel the same.
I feel horrible for you, man. But I think you can overcome it. There are plenty of other women out there. Best of luck.
I am so sorry to hear that. I know that the hurt is really bad right now and there is little that you can hear that will comfort you, but it's obvious to me from your posting here, that you are a really good person who has the respect and admiration of a LOT of people. Try to hold on to that as you get through this really rough patch. I know it looks dark now, but things will get better.
I don't even know what to say, man. I know you're in a bad place right now, but you *will* pull through this. You have a lot of good friends and a lot of people who care about you. If there's any way we can help....
Let me first say I'm so sorry to hear about this...I know you wanted it to work out and sometimes, we don't get what we want... Hang in there and understand that a lot of times, people just want different things and no one is to blame...As hard as it may be, just try to be civil and do not try to find out why it didn't work ou...Some things are better off unknown... Things will get better, I promise...One day you'll look back and know this was the best thing so you can be happy and love again... Good luck...
Damn. I'm really sorry. All of us are. It doesn't really help, but hang in there, buddy. Your life isn't over... it just feels that way.
RM, I just want to add that very few guys would put the effort into saving a relationship that you have. Or go through the introspection the you have taken on, accept a measure of responsibility and grow from it. That is rare. For whatever reason, your wife can't give that the value it deserves right now, but in the future I GUARANTEE you will find someone who does and that person will be also be rare and the right one for you.
Ugh. This may not be the best advice for you to hear right now, but these things rarely go from a big hug two days earlier to finality. My guess is you had a fight with her, and she said this. Here's the sad part: She probably means it, but it took an argument for her to finally say it. What will happen most likely is that she will apologize about it, but tell you things are worse off than expected, yada, yada. She'll say this more to not hurt you than how she really feels. Your best bet, and I've stated this before, is to not try and reconcile. Do not try to reason with her. Do not take her back to work on it. Let her know it was her decision, and you agree that it's time to move on. Two things will happen. Either she will come to her senses and come begging for you to take her back (at which time it will be up to you as to whether you want it. After all, she just put you through hell.) Or she has already made up her mind and the divorce will go through, but she will respect the hell out of you. Nothing good ever comes from trying to romance (ie. beg) a woman to come back if she's made a statement like this. 10 times out of 10, she will pull farther away, and realize she made the right decision. Here's the silver lining: Coming from someone who in 2000 lost his wife, his child (at least for a couple of years), had his ex marry a guy the day of our divorce just 4 days after she was begging me to take her back, had his child call the new guy "Dad" and had his child still refer to him as "Jim." And had his ex try to adopt his child, I can tell you 100% that time heals all wounds. Relationship-wise, I've never been happier. (being single rocks!) Hope any of this rambling helps. I feel for you, man.
