Child Support

Be careful who you have kids with guys!

Get a part time job to goto after you get off of your normal M-F, so you can have some extra money.

I bet it's killing your ex that you're not getting pissed about what she's doing to you.

 

If yall were doing 50-50, you shouldve files joint custody and stuck to your guns. You would have to stay close enough for the kid to go to the same school and stuff, but you wouldn't pay child support. The guy earlier stated how you get taxed, but don't get the write off for the missing money. That's what really sucks.

 

I'm not sure why you think you should be able to get a tax break on child support. I never got any tax breaks for taking care of my kids without being divorced (other than the usual claiming the children as dependents and any child care tax credits). Why should you get a tax break for taking care of your kids if you are divorced (or not a custodial parent)?

You can get the tax breaks you are entitled to, but why should there be something special set up for child support?

 

Man, this thread is depressing me since I'm going through the situation of a divorce right now with a 5 yr. old son. The ex decided to have a long affair and then took off with my son to live at her mom's last summer. I originally went into it fighting for custody but realized my odds sucked like hell and I felt it wasn't best for my son if both his parents were broke from a court fight.

Anyway, the temporary order we are under is standard custody (I get him 1st, 3rd & 5th weekends of every month + every Thurs. = NOT ENOUGH IMO) and states that neither of us pay child support until everything is resolved.

Anyway, if you take the standard 20% from my pay for support, I'm absolutely dirt poor broke and that's with me already moving into my parent's house to help me out financially.

I have no problem supporting my son AT ALL, but I think it's pretty sh***y and unfair that she did everything to break apart my son's family (this is not what I wanted at all) and I'm stuck paying 90% of our collective debt since it's in my name, and then have to live at my parent's house at 31+ yr's old in virtual poverty because her and the court's don't give a flying sh** to give a break on the support until the debt is aid off and while she is still living under and being financed by her mom.

 

My wife had a son right before we met. He was 6 weeks when we started going out, and 5 and a half months when they moved in with me. He's 22 months now. I talked to an attorney recently about adopting him, considering his father chooses not to be part of his life, and recently joined the military, which the attorney said probably screws us from doing the adoption without him signing a termination of right. Now we are going to give him the chance once he graduates Basic, to sign over rights, or pay child support. It seems really unfair to me that I've raised my son for the vast majority of his life, virtually paid everything for him, and that jackass who hasn't paid a dime or made any real attempt to see my son since November 2007, still has a right to him that I do not.

 

Child support is the bane of man's existence.

Woman can decide to abort a child without say from a man.
Woman can decide to leave man and take his child.
Woman is favored by courts in custody disputes.

Man just opens his wallet. This is the life of man sadly. When he's dating he pays for everything. When he's married he pays for everything. If she leaves with the kids, he pays. Man just pays.

 

Brightside, if he joins the military it will be much easier for you GF to get child support from him. Military is very much for their peeps taking care of their family and will directly deduct it from his pay.

 

wow you are dumb.

 

You might have a case considering you ex being unfaithful. If I were you I would spend the money to go at least consult with a good divorce attorney. You might be able to get true 50/50 custody.
Joint custody is NOT 50/50. more like 65/35!

 

Wow, you make a turd with a peice of corn in it seem like Bill Nye.

 

I think there should be because I pay taxes on 12,000 dollars that I work hard for, but have no control over. It should either not count against my over all pay or I should at least be able to get a partial child credit. Here's how it works out:

The ex gets the following:
Tax break on child care (my support pays)
Head of house hold (half of my support pays, and that's being kind)
Claim my child as a dependant

I get the following:
I pay 12000 in child support post taxes
I still pay for food, clothes, and anything else my child needs
I'm renting, so I have no claims there
I also get to adjust my pay scale, in the form of my w-2, just so I can afford to still live while paying the ger a month in support

It gets better, she quit her job because she hated it, and did it right when the economy went south, so she struggled even putting food on the table. Say I lost my job due to lay offs or whatever. She can have the government withhold child support from my unemployment check. She can also have me carry cobra'd insurance to keep coverage on my child. I on the other hand can hire a lawyer and fight it with my own money, or come on clutchfans and b!tch about it.

Oh, and anything that I owed that didn't get paid, gets tacked onto the back end, or puts me in jail. She on the other hand can be a crack w**** and I would have to spend my money to prove it.

So, is it too much to ask for a tax break? I'm not asking for money back, but seriously, you can give me a $100 bucks for following the plan forced on me by your judge?

I've always viewed the child support system as something set in place to make sure the parents stayed involved in the childs life. Given my involvement in it over the past 4 years, that's clearly not the case.

 

What he said......lean up....AIG style.

DD

 

It's called "child support" for a reason, not "baby mama" support.

The amount of child support is determined by state law.

There is no negotiating.

If your lawyer said so, you need a new lawyer.

When you get a raise, increase your child support voluntarily.

Man up and support your children without crying about it.

It's your child. They're worth the sacrifice.

Signed:

15 years paid ranging from a court ordered $234 to voluntary increases to over $700 per month by age 18

 

Yea, been down this road and was told Fort Bend judges will not sign off on a 50/50 arrangement because they feel it's detrimental to the child to be yo-yo'd back and forth. Like I said, I quickly found out I have to just bend over a take it especially if I want the whole thing to go as smoothly as possible for my son throughout everything.

 

Unfortunately "child support" often ends up being "ex-wife support." I don't know many women who get child support payments who use that money for the purpose of supporting their children. Instead it's just an extension of their purchasing power.

 

I don't think anyone is saying they don't want to pay for thier child. I infact cover more than I'm supposed to for mine. I've also, like the post above is going through, paid off over 70% of the colective debt from my divorce.

So, thanks for the man up thing and all, but I don't think thats the point of the thread. None of us are octodad on this board...

 

This thread has conviced me into not having kids for another five years.

Thank you bbs.

 

Tip: Always use protection with a girl who has sisters (plural) with kids (plural) from multiple men (plural) that they are not married to.