My dad is retired but still has insurance. Dad told me they are asking 350 up front for the deductible plus other expenses and the new meds she needs.
you're out of line. Fyi I'm no kid. I'm 43, been teaching for 22 years and never said nobody cared. No **** my family is going through some hard ****. That's no secret.
Sorry, but I've seen too much scandals **** in my life. I know it's not your fault, but it's something I need to work on. I hope and pray your mom gets better than ever!
If she was diagnosed with dementia it's not a rare disease or curable. So it's time to start hitting the local hospital. All those exams sound unnecessary. Depression and dementia are linked together. She is altered mental status which means it would cause fluctuatino emotions. Build up pressure in the brain? We are not dealing with a hemorrhaging brain here. Chest xrays for chest pain, yes. Head cat scans? No. ONE Mr I scan of the head is sufficient. 350 fee upfront is for everybody. Set up a payment plan, it is illegal to withhold you from ER because of money
My dad will try anything to help my mother. I'm basing this on what he told me. I was not there for this diagnosis. They think there may be some buildup of pressure that can be releived and help slow the progression of the disease. When she was tested initially, and the diagnosis conference, they have not seen many cases of frontal temporal dementia in hispanic women and wanted to include her in the studies. He said They think that this may be caused by a stroke or past head trauma, and we were in a major accident years ago. If my dad thinks that releiving pressure in the brain may help her, he is going to try it.
Right now my mom is resting in bed. The hospital systems down here in the valley are crap. I wouldnt come in here for an ingrown tonail. Year's ago, Mom's last doctor completely blew off the notion that something was wrong, attributing it to natural aging. My mom and dad both tried to tell her something, but the doctor just told her to start using post it notes to help her remember.
I know you said this in jest. Sad thing is, CF is thinking I'm taking advantage, and any little bit of donations has stopped.
Your family appears to have reached a point where you need to consider an agency whose purpose is the assistance you seek rather than the random kindness of people. I'm sure I've posted this information before but if you have not inquired with the appropriate state agency that provides this type of assistance you should: Texas Department of Aging and Disability Services
Yes, my sister called. The program you told me about is an add on to a pension plan and my dad does not have a pension plan for his service. I don't wow understand it.
Upon reading this thread. I think....while it is indeed possible that he is taking advantage and taking the donations unjustly, I feel it is not really our place to determine that. I mean, it is still a possibility, and if you have the heart and means to donate, you should. If he is acting in vain, then he will get his later. I just really feel it is unfair for the opinions of certain posters to have such a profound affect on the donations. BUT... At the same time, I can see the viewpoint of those critical. This is a toughie. There have been numerous heartless scandals. The thing to remember is that each medical situation is definitely handled as a case-by-case basis. This is why it is referred to as the practice of medicine. Idk man. All in all, if he is using the means with the right intentions then it is a good thing he is attempting to help his mother in any way possible. I currently live with my grandmother who has severe dementia (Alzheimer's) and it is truly a heart-wrenching thing to witness. But at some point, there is not much one can do. It is a degenerative disease. We can only hope to slow down it's onset, but eventually the result is inevitable. OP, I know finances have been an issue. However, I think the best thing to consider at this point is just letting things flow, and using the money and saving up for her to be placed in a nursing home or professional care similar. Easier said than done, yes I know. But the options are readily being exhausted. Maybe considering letting her be at peace and living comfortably, instead of numerous medical tests that may prove ineffective, would be a better alternative? Especially if she is as far along with the illness as you have stated. Wish you the best. Only you know your true intentions in your heart.
Thank you for your kind words. I have tried to be completely transparent and update all whenever any of the donated money was used. I understand what you are saying about the disease, but you have to understand that my dad is using everything at his means to try to find something to cure mom. He won't give up. He's been told its an incurable degenerative disease, but he's nor accepting that. He's been talking about a treatment in south america that claims they can reverse the disease. Of course, he wants to take mom. But as for the matter at hand, most those that demanded answers, or accused me of wrongdoing have not come back to offer and discussion. Just cast doubt and judgement and walk away. I wonder if the trial is over.
Believe me I know that is difficult as it is something we are dealing with with my mother. Perhaps some sort of intervention with your dad would help? From what you write, it appears he cannot come to grips with this disease (understandable), but for his own benefit he needs to realize the true state your mother is in and that the disease will continue to progress. Someone always hears of some "miracle" cure for [insert disease here], but if there truly was that cure, wouldn't they think more people would be taking advantage of it? I suspect I am preaching to the choir and y'all have tried to convince your dad to learn to cope with this, but I think the longer he is in denial, the worse it will be for all involved. Good luck!
Falcons, I know you were away from CF.net for a while and I know you're a respected teacher and coach, man, but... for one reason or another, it just didn't strike me well at first, and I had some sort of hunch about the first thread. With that in mind, I always donate when I can, and this time, something stopped me. I felt like I didn't have enough, even if it were little, to give. I would give if I have it, still today. I will give if I can, but I'd still like to ask: Who went to the Vegas trip? Did you or someone in your family with ties to your mom go? Straight up, I don't think I could go to Vegas even if the trip was free, comped, or whatever. I would have raffled or sold the tickets or whatever else came with it.
