who cares if he did, he had put 5 years into her beforehand, and why would you want to reconcile if she cheated.
Depends on how you define the problem. You defined the problem as something in the relationship that caused her to cheat on him. I (and apparently the caller) defined the problem as having a no good cheating skank for a GF. What he did certainly fixed his problem as I define it.
<br> This. He shouldn't have to reconcile the problem. If there is something wrong with the fundamentals of your relationship, just end it. Cheating is so lame. There's no "acceptable" reason for it. I don't see how the guy is wrong for not wanting to reconcile things with her.
He's not wrong for ending it, that's his call to make. Obviously he has a one strike rule or something. Good for him. He's wrong, however, for turning into a 5th grader about it. I can *understand* why he decided to pull this, after 5 years and all. But that doesn't make it *the right thing to do*. I believe in being the bigger person and grace under pressure, apparently its the social norm that I go ape***** if someone cheats on me... oh well.
<br> I understand why as well. I don't think it's the "right thing to do" either, however in situations like these, there is hardly ever a right answer. That's good that you think it's right to be the bigger person. There should be more people like you. Taking the moral high ground and letting the person soak in guilt is often punishment enough. It's just that if everyone had a passive attitude about it, we wouldn't be human. Yet, I just don't think that anyone should sympathize with the girl.
