After the game Kobe's wife asked him about the bruises on his neck that looked strangely like someone held him down by the neck. Then she noticed Kobe was crying because he met someone bigger and stronger and an even bigger fan of an@l $ex.
From the Official NBA Referee Handbook, Chapter 7: Officiating Kobe Bryant : "Figure 1B illustrates a classic example of a 'defensive foul' commited against Mr. Bryant with a possible technical foul called on Mr. Okafor for the dirty look he is giving to Kobe."