I did vote that you could "reclaim your virginity", being someone who's done it the best I could under the circumstances. Don't get me wrong, I don't go around telling people that I'm a virgin, but I haven't done the deed in nearly two and a half years, and do not intend to until I get married. I don't think about my past experiences (which happened when I was married before) and don't want to. I've made mistakes and I have a past, but I don't want to live forever like a woman with a past. I wanted to reclaim my innocence and myself, and even though it's only a state of mind, I've done that. I don't expect my relationships to automatically have sex as a part of them just because I've already "lost it". My boyfriend's a virgin (the real kind) and we are learning things together. It IS possible to get back into a habit of not doing it. Much better than doing it with someone you don't want to be with; when you've done that, virginity or re-virginization seems like a very attractive option.
well, ummm, I'm not saying never TOUCH your extension or anything... take care of what you need to take care of...
I really don't get what the big deal is about virginity. I waited longer to have sex than most just because I was scared ****less of knocking up a chick when I was too young, but it's just a physical act. I don't think anyone should be dangerously promiscuous in their life and I'd rather not be with someone that has a ton of sexual partners, but I'd laugh in their face and dump them if they told me they were a "born again" virgin or whatever. I don't care how many sexual partners someone has had. On the other hand, I can respect someone if they want to go for a period of their life without having sex...if you feel like that is the best choice at a certain point in your life, I can respect that...just don't say you're a virgin. Some of these women sound sick in the head. Having your hymen reattached as an anniversary present for your husband? That's sick. These people are flakes. This lady was in a relationship with a guy for seven years and had two children and she wants to re-virginize herself? I'm sorry, after two children, you aren't eligible for virginity anymore. Are you kidding me?
I think you can be committed to chastity and morality as you wish to be, to me the word virgin implies a pre-sexual condition which doesn't exist once you have had sex. Doesn't mean you can no longer set moral standards for yourself. Course I am a weirdo in that I don't believe that the Supreme Being spends all His time fretting about consentual sexual activity, and for me personally if someone of your preferred gender is helping you achieve orgasms and vice versa then you are having sex.
You can always change your attitude towards something and you can keep from not doing the same "mistake" again. However, when its said and done, you can't renew your virginity because when you are with your husband, it still doesnt change the fact that someone else has been with you. If my girlfriend reclaimed her virginity, that would do nothing for me...because I know she's been with someone else. So, its nice to change attitudes and habits for the better, but that will never change the past...and the past is reality, not fantasy.
Totally agree. I thought it was an interesting Protestant slant on the old Catholic tradition of indulgences. Instead of donating to your church to purge sins, you spend ridiculous amounts of money to augment your body to purge the dirty sin...
I guess it's a state of mind...I mean, you can't turn back time/tightness (excluding surgery), but starting over again isn't such a bad thing...I guess if you were young enough and stopped having sex for a long period of time, you could pass, but once you tell someone, I agree, that person will never think of you as a virgin... Saving yourself for the right person is a good thing and many wish they could "do it over" again with the right person...I see nothing wrong with it but it's kind of silly to state your a "virgin"...
I only use my "reclaimed virginity" thing for myself, as a state of mind. I would never go tell anyone else I was a "virgin". It's not good if these people are doing that when they begin new relationships. This is how relationships get built on lies and STDs get spread. I also think it's sad that people feel they have to have the surgery. I mean, males have a virginity and lose it too, and there is no physical/surgical equivalent there, so how fair is that? Some women do not have the whole hymen thing to begin with. For the record, when I lost my virginity I did not feel like I'd grown up, lost my innocence, whatever. I really didn't feel any different. Even as a Christian I can say that, while it's good not to have sex when you're not supposed to, the whole virginity hype is much overrated in terms of how it defines you as a person. and well, if you're going to use this definition... ...then that changes a bunch of things... and I would have never won any awards for chastity to begin with.
virginity should be a state of mind/ or being, but it isnt. you can masturbate every night to p*rn and still be considered a virgin. I think virginity is overrated and for the most part meaningless.
I think if a virgin that technically lost their virginity from sexual abuse were to say they were a virgin I would believe them because it is more of a state of mind in doing an act that should be mutual. A virgin that was raped would still be a virgin in my eyes as far as purity goes. I think it becomes more than once the cherry is popped you're no longer a virgin. There is a psychological aspect to it, but what the women in these articles are trying to do is idiotic.
That could mean that people who sleep with hookers before finding someone they love are still considered virgins too. Not sure what the big deal is. Yes, there can a spiritual and/or sentimental aspect to the first time, but it's not as important as finding meaning in relations with people you're intimate with.
Virginity is something you give to someone. If you gave it to someone, then no. If it was taken from you, then that is another matter entirely.
Not at all. I just think if you were a virgin, and you were raped, I think its justified to still say you're a virgin. No one is forcing a person to seek out a hooker for pleasure. Someone who is raped IS forced to commit an act they had no say in.
I'm not sure how a pregnant rape victim can justify to other people (none of their business, but it happens) that she's still a virgin. I understand the mental aspect from your point, and the whole virginity issue reeks of historical sexism. Men can twist definitions about it because they can get away with it easier. I don't see why women can't either.
