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Call Your Relatives, Hug Your Family, Show Your Love

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by SwoLy-D, Mar 2, 2009.

  1. Precision340

    Precision340 Member

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    sorry for your loss bro... keep your head up
     
  2. XxShadyPinkxX

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    Sorry for your loss. That was a really nice post. My sisters and I are on our way to San Antonio to spend time together with our newest sister. Makes me appreciate this time even more. Thanks for sharing.
     
  3. Vinsanity

    Vinsanity Contributing Member

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    Yes, my sentiments exactly. But in some cultures, even distant "family" that you don't even know is to be held higher than anything else - even your best friend.
     
  4. Hmm

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    seems i'll be the first with no extended family to speak of.. to post in this thread..

    so like joduka.. and unlike him.. i am closer to my friends.. though mainly by default..

    and in the sincerest sense.. that about amounts to only two.. whom I actually do consider.. to be true friends..

    but i've no need of a tragedy.. to awaken my appreciation and cherish for them..
     
  5. Hoee Ass

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    Hey man, sorry for your lost. Hope things get better for you and your family.

    Definitely right about showing family love. I'm slowly starting to show my family alot more love than before. Heck, two weeks ago I told my mom I love her for the first time lol.. and it felt good.
     
  6. SwoLy-D

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    Thank you all for those kind words, first of all... but I just wanted to do this thread to remind all of you about your family... they need you all the time... don't forget them...

    With all that already said, I didn't think I'd need to start another thread, but I wanted to show you all this here message I received from an uncle of mine, it is called The Other Woman [WARNING: get the tissues!]
    [rquoter] After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.. She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would Love to spend some time with you.'

    The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

    That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. 'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

    'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded 'just the two of us.' She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.'

    That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on... She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.
    'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear about our meeting.'

    We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.

    After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half-way through the entrees, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

    'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I responded.. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed.

    'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.

    A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance.. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but, nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.

    'I love you, son'

    At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I love YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till some 'other' time.

    Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, 'normal' is history.

    Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first... somebody doesn't have two or more children.

    Somebody said the hardest part of being a mother is labor and delivery... somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten...... or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'

    Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets married... somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a mother's heartstrings.

    Somebody said a mother's job is done when her last child leaves home... somebody never had grandchildren..

    Somebody said your mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her... somebody isn't a mother.

    Pass this along to all the GREAT 'mothers' in your life and to everyone who ever had a mother.

    This isn't just about being a mother; it's about appreciating the people in your lives while you have them... no matter who that person is!

    Watch your thoughts, they become words.
    Watch your words, they become actions.
    Watch your actions, they become habits.
    Watch your habits, they become character.
    Watch your character, for it becomes... your destiny.

    'Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle'.
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  7. Shaud

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    Sorry to hear that.

    I call my grandma everyday to check on her and tell her I love her before I hang up the phone.
     
  8. BmwM3

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    I must have missed this thread the first time around. Sorry for your lost Swoly. Great post. Here's a story I saved from an email I got that I think is appropriate for this thread.


    A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his

    5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

    SON: 'Daddy, may I ask you a question?'

    DAD: 'Yeah sure, what it is?' replied the man.

    SON: 'Daddy, how much do you make an hour?'

    DAD: 'That's none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?' the man said angrily.

    SON: 'I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?'

    DAD: 'If you must know, I make $50 an hour.'

    SON: 'Oh,' the little boy replied, with his head down.

    SON: 'Daddy, may I please borrow $25?'

    The father was furious, 'If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don't work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.' The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

    The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boys' questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

    After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down , and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $25.00 and he really didn't ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy's room and opened the door. 'Are you asleep, son?' He asked.

    'No daddy, I'm awake,' replied the boy.

    'I've been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier' said the man. 'It's been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here's the $25 you asked for.'

    The little boy sat straight up, smiling. 'Oh, thank you daddy!' He yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

    The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.

    'Why do you want more money if you already have some?' the father grumbled.

    Because I didn't have enough, but now I do,' the little boy replied. 'Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.'

    The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness. It's just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $50 worth of your time with someone you love.

    If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours.

    But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.
     
  9. Deckard

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    I'm sorry to hear of your loss. In my case, I'm pretty affectionate with my family, but I'll distribute some extra hugs and kisses. I lost a cousin many years ago to a car accident and we were very close. Still miss the guy. He had the quote I use as my signature taped to his bedroom mirror when he died. I use it for that reason. It's terrible to lose someone like that. They live on in our memories, which is the only immortality I am sure of.
     

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