[Bro Help] Rebounding your life after a serious relationship

Never, ever put the pu$$y on a pedestal.

 

You say you have a great job in Houston?

Good. More money for yourself. Enjoy!

 

I know it sucks but cut off all contact. It's hard to get over someone when you are still talking to them.

 

A woman can never get a 2nd chance, so it is important to stomp on any memories you ever had of her for the time being and concentrate on nothing but yourself and your own well being until you past the initial grief and feelings of loss.

Find a hobby. Build a model airplane, read a lot of books you've always wanted to read, learn a language, learn an instrument.

I believe it is important to keep the mind occupied.

Eventually the sting will wear off and your feelings will disappear.

Any contact whatsoever is like letting a gangrenous limb fester. It will only **** up the rest of whats left if you allow it to persist.

 

Listen to this, he is spot on. Walk away

 

It will just take time, then one day you will wake up and start laughing out loud like, why in the world was I ever upset over that girl? But, after 7.5 years, it will take more than 6 months.

Sounds to me like you need some new friends. Try to hang out with cool/confident guys who have some motivation in life. The type of guys who run their own businesses, do what they want to do with their own time, guys who go to the gym and take care of their health and body - alpha males. Distance yourself from video game playing, fast food eating, sports nerds like many of these clowns on cf.net. These types of guys will just depress you even more. You're better than that. I think that's the key. Also, travel, travel out of the country. Go check out Brazil, costa rica, and maybe colombia - they have super hot women there and they aren't too far of a flight from Houston. Then when you get comfortable with the travel, you've got to go to south east asia. Go to Thailand, The Philippines, Bali, Malaysia - and you'll be in paradise with women all over you.

Whatever you do, don't join an online dating site right now. The quality of women there will depress you. These women are overweight, desperate, and looking for marriage. You don't need that right now.

 

The bearded instabuddha speaks.

 

If you have a chance to get her back why dont you. The grass isn't always greener on the other side. 7.5 years is a long time.

 

Look for opportunities to join a gym, club, organization that allows you social interaction outside your normal group. There are plenty to choose from.

Get involved with intermural athletics. Get involved with your church. Start a poker night. Start playing that musical instrument you always wanted to try. Something...anything.

There are a million ways to occupy your mind when the mind needs occupying.

 

Sounds like you need an escort



Or hit up Barnes and nobles and read some books. Lots of intelligent hot girls go there if you want quality companionship to bring home permanently

 

Having been through something similar, I feel ya but it gets better and in a year or so you'll be thankful for what happened. Go out and figure yourself out, you're still pretty young. Can't find friends that like to party and have a good time? Meet some new people, go to social functions. I'd stay away from Match, eHarmony, etc. for the moment. See what *really* makes you tick, discover stuff you didn't even know you liked and you'll probably meet some cool people and girls along the way. Good luck.

 

You're still young bro. It will take time. Reminisce the times you've been together. 7 1/2 years is most certainly long. In the end of reminiscing, say that you love her for the last time and let her go. You paid your respects and it's time to move on. Strive for self-improvement. By self-improvement I mean your whole self. This includes physical, mental and spiritual. Especially the spiritual. Work out, read your favorite books, discover new books/topics to expand your mind and move closer to the Highest being. Go back to your core: your family. Spend time to communicate with them. Your friends are dispensable but your family isn't.

Explore new things (and I don't mean fleshlight) and push yourself to the limits (still not fleshlight). You deserve a better half. As for the better half, stop looking for her. You and her will be together eventually.

Is this wingman good enough? :grin:

For all the bros in this board who aren't tied yet, you'll all need this at some point (big image):

Spoiler

You're welcome.

 

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You're still young and your position isn't that bad. You have no kids with her. That means no child support. You weren't married. That means no alimony or splitting up what you own together. If she has bad credit, you're lucky to not have gotten any more involved with her.

Date other people. Sleep with other women. A lot of other women. Sleep with enough until you realize that there isn't a "one." At best, there's a slew of women out there you probably have enough compatibility with at this present moment, that if nurtured could mean stronger compatibility with in the future. But that's pu$$y talk.

Short answer is date other people and focus on you because no one else is going to look out for you as well as you can.

 

From the ages of 20-28, I dated one girl and then I broke it off a few years back. Here are my words of wisdom:

- It will take years to truly get over the relationship, not because you want to get back with that person but because it is just plain weird not being with them anymore. Time heals all wounds.

- Think of everything that you sacrificed because of this relationship and do those things. (i.e. Getting a motorcycle, going to Ibiza, buying an Xbox 360 AND PS3, etc.). This will help you justify your new single life.

- Minimize the time spent alone because all you will do is get depressed and go crazy if you do so. Surround yourself with friends and go out as much as possible. Spend as little time at home as possible.

- It takes a woman to get over a woman but don't make it a priority right off the bat because A.) It will feel weird and B.) You should just be having fun and enjoying your new freedom to hang out with friends more and do whatever you want to do. Focusing on scoring a new chick will just make you look desperate and make you go crazy.

- You will have to re-learn how to date. It's like introducing a captive animal back into the wild. Don't be scared of making mistakes and looking like a fool or else you will never learn to hunt again.

 

Id make a list of things you want to achieve, and then go and do them, prioritise by things that you couldn't do when with your ex.

That will take up a lot of your time, the worst thing you can do is sit at home thinking "Why me?"

Don't try and work out what went wrong or if you could have done anything differently, just cut all contact no matter how hard it is and just put all your energy into a positive channel.

I went through the same thing a few years ago.

 

Start a blues band, and make sure the rest of the band members are married.

Ca-CHING!

:grin:

 

Success! Your late 20's/early 30's are the physical prime of your life. To be single during this time....fantastic.

The absolute last thing you want to do is try to get into another relationship. If you're pining away over a girl you lost six months ago, you need to focus on finding happiness within yourself. Do crap you've always wanted to do. Better yourself. Get healthy.

When you feel the instinctual need to procreate, get laid.

Who cares how long you were together? It's all past. Learn from it, move on. If you're savvy enough about women after your single experiences, you'll meet one that 'fits' you better and the learning curve will be much easier between you.