Dude, she's just not that in to you. But, to see if there might be the slightest chance of a reconciliation, let her see you laughing and having a good time with another chick. If she calls you up after that, your money.
In all of my relationships. Less than six weeks=I dump them More than six weeks=they dump me. This is my life, without fail. None of my eight long term relationships have varied from this. That's right. I've been dumped eight times. Six of the eight married the next guy they dated. None of them ever told me the reason they broke up with me.
Get your stuff together and take care of yourself. If you meet again and she likes the fact that you're independent and know your stuff, then she's probably twisted in her standards and unintentionally screwing with your head.
I gotta agree with the rest of the guys. You're being dumped. Of course there is always a very slim chance that she really means, "Lets take a break." I did that with someone and ended up back with her after a few months. So it could happen. I think you need to ask yourself how much you like this person. If you think you can do without her go on and feel free and start looking for someone else. If you think you still really like her give her some room and for a week or so and then send her an email or give her a call. Don't try to hang out with her and especilly don't stalk her. That will kill any chance. More than likely though prepare for some pain.
I'm gonna hafta disagree. I prefer the "rip it off like a bandaid" advice. It'll hurt in the short-term, but it's for the best in the end.
Look on the bright side. Maybe she'll get back with you after she gets through screwing all of the other guys she's interested in enough to want to take a break from you with. Knowing that would you really want to get back with her?
Some really good advice there. Late last year this girl I was kind of seeing said exactly the same thing to me. We still talked to each other and stuff, but it wasn't the same. In the end we both felt it was better to break it off completely. We haven't spoken since early January, and even though it did hurt at the start, the pain's completely gone now. Of course that's all going to change next week when we see each other at university (we're in the same classes), so we'll see how it goes. Maybe we'll be better of because of it.
Might be a little late, but here's my 2 cents. Based on past experiences, that usually means it's over. It might not be over a few weeks from now if you keep hanging out, but in the long run, it's probably not going to get much better from here on out. If I were you, I'll just let it pass and just try to have as little to do with her as possible. 6-8 years ago, I might seek to do something hurtful to her (go out with someone else to make her jealous, etc), but the truth is... chances is that she probably doesn't want to hurt you too much or she could've been really insensitive about it. Moreover, it's definitely not fair to whoever you decided to date. Secondly, it's never as bad as it feels right now. I can almost assure you that weeks or months down the line, being single could be some of the best times in your life... whether you date other people or not. There are lots to take advantage over when you're single... hanging out with old friends, watching your favorite sport games, being YOURSELF instead of what she wants you to be. Most relationships end badly and almost always, at least one person gets hurt. It's also a big learning experience. Even if she WAS "perfect" at one point to you, obviously something wasn't right. Maybe it's you, maybe it's her. Maybe there's more to learn about being in a relationship and you make it right on the next one, even though you might have to learn something else. Either way, if you would like to write an e-mail, I would not suggest it be an ugly one. Either way, it's your life, and I don't totally know YOUR situation; however, I sincerely suggest that you write her an e-mail, thanking her for everything even though it didn't end well. Let her know that you will move on and as a rule of thumb, don't decide to get back into this relationship harshly. Chances is it's a desperate move to feel like you belong again, and that cinderella story usually hits midnight faster than normal. Take care and good luck!
