seems like this question is not being answered correctly by many here. are you dating/married best friends forever people saying platonic bff's who have sexual tension aren't really friends? sure, both women and men hate it when a so-called friendship was just a lie to get into someone's pants. that said, why is sexual tension a deal breaker? It's natural to have some sexual tension between opposite sexes. Hell, my best friend and I joke/talk about it. imo, if you can talk about it, then it's not an issue. that said, if you e v e r feel compelled to say "I always loved you" and want to be with you, then you have jumped the shark, and that friendship was a lie...there are rarely any When Harry Met Sally's outside of Hollywood.
Not counting my wife, I've had a number of girls as friends, but none really as close as the guys I was friends with as a kid. Now, I am friends with my wife's friends and with my friend's wives, but that is a pretty distant friendship. With my marriage, being friends with a woman apart from my other relationships just won't happen.
I had a girl BFF. Very bone-able but I behaved myself since I was engaged at the time. We stop being BFF when I moved out of town. Looking back, I suspect that she was wanting more. If I had not actually liked her as a friend, ... Something I have discovered as I got older is that women make good friends. I moved around a bit since getting out of school. Usually the first friends I get in a new town are women. Go figure.
My best friend in college was a female. We were great friends for 3+ years, and I did appreciate having the female perspective. Always had a fun time and great conversation. Then we had sex, and it messed things up. We were both on the rebound and never should have fooled around. We were FB's for a few months, and then feelings got hurt. I haven't spoken to her in over 10 years. Now I've married 6 years, and my best friend is my wife, who among many cool attributes is also a die-hard Rockets fan.
the thadeus is best fwends with all of your wives, (legal, or appearing so) daughters, and girlfriends. don't be hatin'.
It's possible but I think its more situational. Example: back in the late 70s I roomed with two women that worked the same resturant as I. We tend to do everything together. I considered them my best friends then. There was no way I could be best freinds with a woman in the 80s. There was too much oil, money, cocaine, alcohol (I worked the bars back then) and most important, I didn't meet a single woman who shared my growing Rockets fan-ship. (That's not to say I didn't marry them ) It could have happended in the 90s. But I got a little spiritual and spent most of the time learning to be alone without being lonely. (interesting lesson) This decade, well, I married someone I consider my soulmate. She even took to the Rockets like you wouldn't believe. You guys (term of endearment for both sexes) would be proud of her. She is my best friend!
women make great best friends, for other women true story, growing up, i had a great girl best friend. we met in 3rd grade, and were great friends up till high school. i slept with her, and then things got sour, and we're never the same again. i really miss her and i wish she was still my best friend.
Although still young, I'm currently with my best friend of five years, and I sort of had a thing for her for five years, but things just got off the ground this past year. But that doesn't mean I didn't date others in between that time. With that being said, I think it's impossible for it to not turn into something either mentally, or with some physical tension.
By the way, just to add, shes a diehard Rockets fan. But for some reason she isn't into the board... go figure.
