Oh I didn't mean it like that. I meant that we didn't stay as just best friends, it ended up going further than that. I feel like it's inevitable in such situations. And once it goes there, it's nearly impossible for it to go back to being friends again. Either your together, or its over.
tried to get one but either they are only being nice to go out with you or your current GF/wife gets pissed. It sucks cause there is huge advantage to girl/buddy -don;t stink -have t*** -give you insight on girls minds
I had a guy best friend... for a while. Then we turned it into a relationship, which is what a lot of people had thought it was anyway. So: I still have a guy best friend, but it no longer counts toward what this thread is about. I think it is possible, though. Some people aren't attracted to each other relationship-wise but make good brother-sister type friends. When I get in a relationship or get more serious with one, the friendships that suffer the most are those where there was probably some attraction under the surface, or some feelings on the part of at least one person. Even if you were never going to actually do anything with each other, it may sort of put a dent in it, knowing that one of you now belongs to someone else. I would like to believe that a friendship could still be kept out of it, though; it's great to have guy friends, and one thing I miss about being single was that it seemed easier to have guy friends. I do think it's easier to keep them if your partner is friends with them too.
Please don't say you've ever accompanied them or chaperoned them on a Girls Night Out? Thatd be the only way the opposite gender can be a best friend. In a respectful manner, a girl has to be an unattractive butch lezbo for them to be at my top friendship level. Opposite genders can also be a good friend if: 1) Your family and their family are long time close friends, or close neighbors. So its kinda forbidden to be sexually involved as though they are your 1st cousin. 2) You're from opposite "sides of the tracks". Like a rich girl/poor guy type of thing. Such big socio-economic difference that you already know sexual advancement gets you nowhere, so you just talk about stuff.
While it could be possible for me, it is unlikely for the following reasons: 1) Given the chance, I would bone pretty much all of my female friends. 2) A lot of my hobbies and activities I take part in on a regular basis at this point in my life are kinda stereotypically manly and testosterone-filled. Watching and going to sporting events, playing sports and going to the gym, drinking and BSing with each other (lots of profane guy talk, exchanging of stories, and making jokes - basic guy bonding which a lot of girls can't contribute to, let alone stand), etc and so on. I just don't know if I could get the kind of one-on-one time with a platonic girl friend for her to become my best friend - not a lot of girls are interested in going to get all-you-can-eat wings and beer while watching Monday Night Football and trading stories about the girls you are trying to get with. Personally, I'm a big fan of mixed groups - going out with a group of girls and guys, but like I said, I don't share enough common interests with most girls to have one-on-one bonding time with them on a purely platonic level.
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My best friend is my girlfriend. I had/have a girl who I consider a very good friend and still do and nothing has ever happened between us but I don't think I have ever really considered her my best friend.
I've never had a friend that was a girl. Never. I can't do it. If I have any interest in a girl - i want to sleep with her - i don't want to be her friend.
In high school I had a girl best friend who freaked out one time I was telling her about this other girl I liked. She wrote me a letter and dropped it off at my house professing how much she loved me and wanted to be with me, etc. Anyway, so that ended the friendship. I never ended up with either girl.
I find it pretty impossible or at the most, very rare to be "best friends" with the opposite sex. I think a woman could do it, but the man is always going to want more. That is just how it is. I had a "best friend", that started out a me pursuing her, then I hit the friend zone. I liked her as a person and I had my own romances, so it was cool to have her around. I was more of her "shoulder to cry on" than anything. Then one day we crossed that line and it became a 'friends with benefits' sort of thing. But the benefits weren't a regular occurance. Sooner or later we kind of drifted apart. On my end it was a case of just not being fulfilled at all. I had to listen to her cry about this and that, help her out with things, take her out, etc. but my needs (not only sexual) were not being met. I have tried the "good friend" thing before with a woman, but it rarely works. The only one that has worked has been the ones that are strictly IM-based. The ones I never see, might just text or shoot a message or have deep conversations via the PC. But the ones I have to see in person, that never works.
Best friend? No, but a close friend of mine is a woman I have known since Junior High. She lives in Cali. We've been friends for almost 35 years.
I've had several close girl friends over the years (many years ago, actually). Every single one of those relationships eventually became physical.
My fiance is my best friend. I used to have a guy best friend in high school and we grew up together...we went out for a short time but figured we were better off friends. We've lost touch since then.
I married my best friend - 18 years ago. They cross-over from friends to dating was awkward at first. And the idea to cross-over was scary because you don't want to freak your best friend out by saying..."how 'bout it"? But we are still best friends and that will never change.
