you "finally made her go on a date with you?" you're pretty much screwed buddy. if you have to entice her with delusions of grandeur, you just set yourself up for a total dud of a date....unless you do what another poster suggested, fly her to Paris.
Great... as expected no one is really giving real advice. I went on one recently that was pretty good. Take her to a classier/trendier place for dinner and cocktails (like a tapas bar or something, not like a french bistro which is kinda stuffy for date 1). Then go to a nice bar where you can talk. Then maybe something activity driven, like a bar that has pool or something. Also, depending on how well you know this girl you might want to involve another couple. I dunno... give that a shot.
Make her dinner,No I don't mean go hannibal on her,but cook for her While you're cooking for her,Have one or two female friends,of yours, call your cellphone....let her know that you are a wanted man by others. Godspeed.
Keep buying her drinks all night until she blacks out then when she wakes up and can't remember tell her it was the best date ever.
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Take her to a nice restaurant, then bar later if that's your thang, then someone FUN and cute like nighttime mini golf...when you're doing something like that, there's less of a chance it could be awkward. If she's worth anything she'll love to go somewhere like that, or just do something fun. If you find out she's a high maintenance b****, you can drop her right away. Of course, this is all assuming you really like her and want to get to know her. If it's just a booty call, I'm sure other people have better advice...
I was going to write some snarky comment but see that you've already gotten beaten up, which you should've expected, and now I feel sorry for you. I'm no cassanova, I'm not even a cassava, but I can tell you the best date ever doesn't happen when the man is nervous and desperate enough to ask an Internet basketball based message board for dating advice. RELAX... The more pressure you put on yourself to make the best date ever the more you will guarentee it will not be the best date ever. Think about what makes you happy (unless what makes you happy is playing World of Warcraft in your underwear and eating HoHo's), is there a particular restaurant that you've wanted to go to but were looking for someone special to go with you? Is there someplace you like that you would like to share with someone? When I lived in Houston I always liked looking at the skyline from Allen Parkway. A great date can be champagne and fois gras or a plate of ribs with beer it all depends on attitude and if you're nervous and uncomfortable nothing else will make it a great date.
seriously, just take her to a coffee house or tapioca tea place. somewhere you guys can actually chill out. taking her to a nice expensive dinner doesn't mean a great date. besides, i think expensive dinners should be reserved for someone who is your actual g/f. you don't want to spend all that money on someone you don't even really know. if the date goes bad, you're out $40 at least. at least with the coffee or tea, you can talk w/o the pressure of spending a lot of money. if you guys hit it off, great. go do something else. if you can't even talk to her or don't have any kind of connection, great. you're out $10 bucks. then, go on your merry way. props for asking her out, but for future reference, don't say it's gonna be the best date ever and not have any idea what to do.
Yeah I havent read it since like 3 or 4 years ago myself. I think he goes overboard in some instances and the language is pretty over the top also, but there are some very very good insights into a pretty large percentage of the interactions between Men and Women.
Yeah....I probably wouldn't go to a tapioca tea place as a fantastic date. Firstoff, be dressed well and clean and make sure you smell nice. Be very interested in what she has to say and she'll just assume you 'understand' her. Then take her someplace fun for dinner like Zake Lounge (get a reservation) off of Shephard and West Alabama or Gravitas off of Taft. Both places have a nice environment and there are lots of good looking women there which will not have her feel like she's royalty. Have a drink before dinner to calm the nerves as she'll feel it a little on an empty stomach. Don't drink more than she does and get sloppy, sip and stay in control. Then have a nice dinner, don't eat too much and be weary of non light dishes that will make you guys tired. Then share a dessert and head over to the bar for another drink. Sit on a couch area, and just let her talk while you listen intently. Then ask her open ended questions. You learn more about her that you can use and she thinks that you're caring and understand her nonsense. Just be confident and pay attention to her regardless of the good looking women around you. A great date doesn't have to be built up and exotic, just cool and comfortable. And just relax. A girl knows if they like a guy much quicker than a guy knows. If she doesn't, have a good time and move on to another girl. There are waaaay too many out there to get hung up on one! Cheers!
And by the way if you REALLY like this girl do not make a move on her!! Be a gentleman and initiate contact by placing your hand on her lower back as she walks through the door etc, but don't make an outward move. If you begin to try to make a move and she's not ready the defense mechanism FLAG goes up and she's on the defensive. Have her feel comfortable with you and then have her think "Why didn't he try anthing". Be patient for a while and she'll think you want to be friends or are not attracted to her which will make her want you more. Then when it rains, it pours!
it's obvious he doens't want to be just friends and she knows it. why else would he go through all that trouble. and if they are clicking, he SHOULD make a move for a kiss. otherwise, he'd be friendzoned. there's nothing ungentlemen-like to go for a kiss.
this is classic Asian man behavior, it usually winds up with the Asian man becoming the girl's "godbrother".
