Yes, one can certainly remain friends with a former girlfriend. I have, but we were both truly over each other, and found a way to enjoy those qualities that brought us together in the first place, minus the sexual attraction. Yes, I still admire those qualities, but the same way I admire a female friend who's smokin', but who I never dated. In your case, clearly the attraction remains. You want to return to what you once had. Until you've moved beyond that, being "just friends" doesn't look to be in the cards.
we're in the same age bracket so take this as peer advice. I've been on both sides of the coin so I speak with a some knowledge. Staying friends happens only in 1)Movies/TV or 2) when the partners in the relationship were more friends than actual lovers. One can insert couples with kids but the circumstances are significantly different. Otherwise someone is going to get hurt. I suggest you take on a hobby. Keep busy so as to not think of her. The old saying goes half the time you were together. So you should be over her bro. You don't want to live in the past. Don't be that guy.
You can be friends with your ex, IF you do not have any feelings for her anymore. Otherwise Don't. But in your case move on. just forget about her.
There is something to say about discipline. Everyone on this board is basically saying its a bad idea. You have to understand that, and basically lose hope in ever being with her. Tell yourself its never going to happen no matter how hard i try and move on. Doing things like delete her number, her e mail, letting your good friends know so they can help you avoid her are all good ideas. Sounds like you may be entering a real good relationship, no point in ruining it up for something that wont be. Love is a funny thing. Nothing is like your first love but as you get older you learn to know what you really want in life, love is more of the intellect than emotion. A girl that listens to you and is there for you is better then any girl who simply makes you want her. On a side note, nothing is better then when you like someone for a real long time, try to move on, dont see them for a while, and then realize how much better you are without them. Good luck
Its hard for a guy with feelings and emotion sometimes, cuz its expected that you just 'man up' and deal with it. And the love thing just complicates it even more. All the advice and small details adds up to that though. You don't need her adoration and friendship to validate you. Distance yourself by getting involved in something else and DONT contact her. Yes, the cliched words Move On. Save all that stuff for songs and movies. The only kind of friendship you can get isn't the kind you want - only the running into each other in the grocery store after a year and being cordial with each other and remembering with fond memories what you had, that kinda thing. Also girls need THEIR space, too. Let her go on with her life too if you really care about her as a friend. And if possible, date and date and get as many 'rebounds' you can to distance yourself If its even deep down about winning someone back, you living YOUR LIFE and showing no ill effects makes you appear on top of things.
Wow. I've never seen such poor advice. Rule of thumb: Wait as long as the relationship lasted. To be honest, you should probably wait twice as long. I have several ex-girls whom I've remained friends with. But the one's you love are different. Extinguish any remote flame before going down that road.
Yup, move on! When this many people give you the advise to move on, you should try give it serious considerations.
I do think you can be "just friends" with an Ex, but not right away. You Love, You Learn, You Move on!
The general answer is Yes you can be friends with your ex. I am friends with 2 of my ex's and I have no problems whatsoever. In your situation i'm going to have to say no. It takes time after the break-up. Yours is still fairly fresh. I'd give it a total of ayear before you try contacting her.
Simply forget about your past relationship, take the advices of posters before me, and move on... It's better for both you and your ex.
You can be friends with an ex, but it all depends on the situation and how your relationship ended, etc. I've only been able to do it once, and that is because she and I were introduced by one of my best friends. She is his wife's cousin. So, I see her at functions at their house, etc. We're friendly, but we both know that we weren't made for each other as far as a love relationship is concerned.
I'd hit it. Post pictures and we'll let you know. tank the season for an inkown commodity? All of that. You said "friends." I don't recall ever writing a girlfriend poetry, much less a "FRIEND". Sounds to me like you don't want to stay friends... you want to hit it. I am willing to bet my left testÃculo that you didn't hit it and want to go back to give it another try. Did I "hit it" on the nail? If I am wrong, and whence you are the sole owner of my left testÃculo, I can bet (again, this is a MAYBE) that you either didn't hit it right, or you hit a different one and that's why she got p*ssed. Or maybe you never tried to make a move to hit it. Heck, the possibilities are endless. Just learn from your mistakes, man. LIVE. LEARN. LIVE again. p.s. - I didn't "hit" my "first love", and tried hopelessly to go back and do it, but she wouldn't have it. I learned later that she just was using me as a pastime.
It was kind of the opposite situation for me with my ex ... I broke up with her (there was a very good reason, and no she didn't cheat on me) and she didn't want to let go. I tried to maintain a friendship afterwards but when it became clear that she was intent on getting back with me I had to basically tell her very coldheartedly that there was basically no chance in hell we were getting back together (dangit, for practically over a year she wouldn't date hoping that I would get with her again). After that it was nearly a year before we spoke again. I see her occasionally these days, and there are no ill feelings between us, but we could never be close friends again, if you know what I mean. And I prefer it that way. Bottom line is ... a relationship like that has to be properly severed ... you can't hang on to threads. They will ruin you. I think remaining close friends after you've been in love with someone is a rare situation that only happens when both people are emotionally mature enough to "move on" with their lives and not linger on what was past. Even then you have to be careful, especially if you're trying to build a new relationship with someone else, it's not fair to that person if you're holding on to the past, and you could be sowing seeds of trouble.
