Was there a female poster who went out with (or was married to) Elvis Costello (the BBS version)? I can remember the quote as clear as day, but am having a hard time recalling the people involved. It was a long time ago.
Dimsie and Elvis Costello are from New Zealand (and if anyone has a recent usable email address for either of them please le tme know)
Not sure if dimsie1@yahoo.com still works (Google found it for me...). But try this, seems to be very much up to date: http://www.dimsie.blogspot.com/ I'm pretty sure that's her.
It just feels gross. Like being a giant hanger that carries a pair of boobs. Or like being a pincushion - full of holes, good for sticking things in. Guys, I'm betting that you'll get a lot more positive reactions from women if you touch them a lot in "non-sexual" places - shoulders, back, etc. - instead of just going straight for the goods. Being desired is a good thing, but I want to be desired for myself, not just for my body. Not for a couple of things that grew on my chest during middle school and have had no other discernible use yet. What about my personality or my inner self and all that? I do think it's mainly women who have this sense of "wrongness" about being leered at. Guys don't seem to mind; if they do get "objectified", it's a positive, regardless of their actual morals. Use a guy for his body part, even tell him as much, and likely he won't mind. He'll feel flattered. Maybe not deep down inside, of course, but he won't be as bothered as we would. That's why guys who are going to use girls have to disguise it carefully and act like they really care about the girls. Of course, it's better to be a sex object than to be absolutely undesirable, I suppose. I'd just prefer to interact with others as equal human beings than as a dog and a piece of meat.
What was the name of that book...women are from venus and men are from mars...or something like that...
Well, if you have something other than your body to offer, won't the other person find that out once they actually meet you?
Not necesarily, they'd actually have to care about something other than her body to notice it. Many men do not.
For black guys it's weird because the penis gets all the attention. Which is also weird because black guys embrace the "rumor" but generally we have no idea how ours stacks up. Guys always knew the black guy in the locker room that was hung...BUT THERE WAS A WHITE GUY TOO!!!! It's not like me other black dudes get together with other ethnic groups with rulers. Sorry for derailing but I'm just sick of it.
In a "Straight Dope" column, I read that someone had done a scientific study on that. Yes, the black guys were slightly bigger than the white guys. The Asian guys were not quite as well hung as the white guys. Sorry, just reporting the scientific results. Keep in mind that these differences in average length were not that great. I can't remember if they were measured under working or non-working conditions.
I have to admit, don't really like how Clutch City ranks my member at 3280. Everyone at the parks usually holds up a ten.
In a monogamous relationship, this is the crux of a problem that I've observed. For women non-sexual intimacy (hugging, hand-holding et al) is part of very extended foreplay-- like hours/days leading up to sexual intimacy. For men non-sexual intimacy is an after-product of sexual intimacy. Neither is better, but both just are. Both sexes must compromise. I think it is harder for women to do that.
Not sure if this is off-topic, but three questions/issues... 1) Who thinks the "rumor" is true? 2) If the "scientific evidence" shown by Isabel is correct, could that not just mean that there is a correlation between height and "his" size, since it seems that this data reflects the average differences in height? [I feel that this is a good moment to point out that I am 6'6... ] 3) Isn't it so that someone might be less "hung", but in "working" mode bigger than someone's that looks more "hung", but doesn't "inflate" that much when it wakes up? Questions, questions....
It did say that "under actual working conditions, things tend to even out." So you're correct about #3. Of course, you (hopefully) don't see the working modes around the locker room. Also... how do I put this... I believe the extra long ones can't always point as far upward. Height differences - might be true. The rumor is that it doesn't correlate to any other body part - so much for looking at hands or feet - but I would think that the general scale of the person would have something to do with it. On the other hand, there are "tripods" out there. Remember - it's not the size of the sword, but how you swing it.
Isabel -- you seem like a great person...but just a tip...if you don't want to be viewed as a sex object, then one way to avoid that would be not commenting on penis size and your own chest in a basketball hangout forum populated by guys. just my two cents!
Too late . I would say if you don't want to be viewed as a sex object, don't admit to be female on a basketball forum!
True. I'll probably never get to appear in person at any of the games now. Well, actually it would have been that way no matter what I did or didn't say. Because - I admitted to being female, and all females get checked out. I could have picked a neutral username, but then everyone would assume I was just another guy. And that's about the last thing I want.... just makes you feel unfeminine somehow. On the subject of penis size: hey, it's merely scientific. My own personal experiences involve only one of those things, so I get my data from others' experiences. It's more that I'm just being honest and don't like all the social taboos about not talking about stuff like anatomy that everybody has. If that makes any sense. In other words, I'm saying it just like you would say it to your good friends.
