Yeah, what a great catch... Dude... you need to be thanking your lucky stars this happened. Do you really want to marry a woman who is going to start a BAR ROOM BRAWL every time she sees you talking to another woman?? You really need this type of drama in your life?? Of course, she'll probably come back to you. And you'll probably take her back. And all this nonsense will start over again. I hope you do the right thing, man. Not trying to be an a-hole or anything, but come on. Let this one go.
Dude, it sounds like you are a hell of a guy and you treat your women the right way, so it sucks that you had to get it like this. I'm not one to scream "dump her!" in every relationship thread, but you really should have broken things off after that night that she pummeled your face. Believe me when I say you are going to look back on this in the future and know that being married to this girl would've been the worst decision of your life.
Thank you for your support all. I made it to work ok. Fighting back emotions and all, but the last thing I will do is let this ruin my job. I am a person that turns to lyrics to explain situations, and I was listening to some Floyd on the way to work today. This song explains everything. The Final Cut (Waters) through the fish eyed lens of tear stained eyes i can barely define the shape of this moment in time and far from flying high in clear blue skies i'm spiralling down to the hole in the ground where i hide if you negotiate the minefield in the drive and beat the dogs and cheat the cold electronic eyes and if you make it past the shotgun in the hall dial the combination. open the priesthole and if i'm in i'll tell you what's behind the wall there's a kid who had a big hallucination making love to girls in magazines he wonders if you're sleeping with your new found faith could anybody love him or is it just a crazy dream and if i show you my dark side will you still hold me tonight and if i open my heart to you and show you my weak side what would you do would you sell your story to rolling stone would you take the children away and leave me alone and smile in reassurance as you whisper down the phone would you send me packing or would you take me home thought i oughta bare my naked feelings thought i oughta tear the curtain down i held the blade in trembling hands prepared to make it but just then the phone rang i never had the nerve to make the final cut <object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/-wzwF3upH-A&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/-wzwF3upH-A&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>
Man, I feel for you. As I've posted on here a few times, my 7+ yr. marriage (was with her for 9 years) ended early last year because of her having a full fledge affair/relationship. It hurts like hell and it was the worst thing I've ever had to deal with. As unbearable your pain is right now, you need to thank God every day that this happened now before you got married to the woman and thank God even more there are not children involved. Outside of my son's whole aspect on my situation, I'm actually glad this all happened and that I realized, through other things I found out as well, who I was actually married to. Once the dust and emotions settle, you'll see the same thing. Your hurt, distraught and you're lost thinking of how you are going to go on living the rest of your life happy again. But, I'm a testament that things will get better, always believe that. Find support in friends and family and, if you ever need someone to talk / vent to, feel free to email me at anytime. Good luck man.
Run fast. Get out while you can. Remove any and all items of hers from your place. I know it's easier said than done, but it will only get worse if you marry this person...then getting out takes lawyers.
ok I am ass for laughing at this picture (cant help it one of my favorite movies of all time) but cwebbster man I feel terrible for you but you will get through it all I am sure and find a women that is truly deserving of you sure enough. Everything happens for a reason, learn from it, and go forward. Easier said than done but you will come out of this too.
One of the worst things a human being can endure. You are so emotionally invested in someone and yet they do this to you. Tough, but such is life. You'll get over it. It's a cliche, but the truth. Time heals all wounds. Be strong, hang in there.
Having confirmed it being the same chick from the unenviable karaoke thread, there is not much else that needs to be said. Chick is/was bat**** crazy from the sound of it and even though you were pretty emotionally invested, having no kids and not being married is an enormous plus. Good luck man. There's a lot of good people here that have had a similar experience at one point or the other so don't hesitate to bump up this thread.
cwebb, do you like going out with "bad" girls with lots of drama? Do they excite you? This girl definitely sounds like that. You need to find yourself a nice, normal girl who won't go Manny Pacquio on your ass everytime you do something wrong. I understand you feel awful right now, but it can a lot worse. You could have been married with kids when you found this stuff out. At least it will be easy to start over once you get your emotions settled.
While stipend might have exaggerated a bit, finding out someone you really care about is ****ing you over (so to speak) , it does sting like hell. It's not like having someone close to you pass away or dealing with different kinds of drama, but it's definitely up there.
I hope you don't go back with her. Move on. Simple like that. It won't be easy but you'll be better off.
c-webb, let it go man. When a girl starts accusing you for cheating when it is extremely obvious you aren't (such as the karaoke story), it is pretty obvious she is the one cheating. As others have said, the best thing you can do is let her go. If you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. If you do, you'll thank God when you actually find the woman who treats you right.
Wow..........very sad. Good luck moving on, but just be happy you two arent married. I can understand forgiving someone, but if both of you arent commited 100 %, then its just useless trying.
