To clarify, I didn't mean that its a mistake to give a baby or bottle or nurse them before bed. I think its a mistake to use nursing or a bottle to get them to fall asleep, while doing so. And you are right. Every kid is different and some can easily recover from what one may perceive as a bad night time habit. Everything I ever read or head from different pediatricians is to let your baby, as young as possible, to fall asleep on their own without any assistance from mommy and/or daddy.
We let our kids sleep with us when they were little. It was easier for everyone considering my wife was working a full time job and nursing (pumping durring the day). Neither of my kids ever had a drop of formula and never slept in a crib. When they were weaned off the tit at 2.5 years they went to their own bed at the same time. There was a month for each that was a tough transition but after that smooth sailing.
I'll politely tell the child "that is not asseptable!" & put them in the naughty corner. (can you tell i do not have children yet?)
There is a good book called the Baby Wisperer as well. I have not read the one CBFC says, but it sounds similar, not the extreme of the two more popular fads where you do anything the baby wants anytime OR where you completely impose your own structure 100% of the time. There is a balance, this book has a lot of practical advise/clues on what is pushing it too far from the parents point of view, or when a 6 month human is calling too many shots. I think her crying 2 hours is way too much. Her biting and self injury is a concern too. You might want her Ped involved. Got to find a way she can put herself asleep in her crib.
No, I don't think so. It is the crib itself, or that the crib means to her that she'll be left alone. If you put her on the changing table, she won't fret and could even fall asleep. She is sometimes nursed to sleep and sometimes not. I suppose she's pushing now for more. She isn't likely, any longer, to fall asleep without someone else in the room. I have Baby Whisperer, but have not seen Sleeping Through the Night. I even did the Whisperer thing of laying her down everytime she stood up in the crib. That worked back then, but that was a couple of months ago and it got knocked off kilter by business trips. I don't think I'm too interested in the gradual approach, because Lydia will cry in her crib whether we are there or not. There is no sufficient comforting in that situation. I'd like to go hardcore and force her to learn to like it, but the self-injury thing makes me hesitate.
