finding people that care about stuff like that is as hard to find as finding people that use common sense. IF common sense is so common, why do most people not use it? FT..you are right...I hadnt put together the updates with the original posts.... good luck in getting it straightened out fairly....
It was handled OK in the end. They're allowing your son to see the event, and he's being taught a lesson that you shouldn't, I repeat, shouldn't fight. Now, as a father, it is your job to tell him that he still did the right thing, but fighting is always used as a last resort, because there are consequences for it. Then pat him on his head and get him an ice cream.
Funny, this must be going around.... My oldest kid recently got in two fights in two days. The first fight someone hit him (or so he says) and he gets ISS for 3 days. After getting HIS SIDE of the situation, I sign the school docs and somewhat let it go. The very next day I am fuming because this time he allegedly stepped between a friend and a bully on the school bus and the bully hit him starting the fight. The school promptly gives him 4 more days and a week suspension from riding the bus to school. The in-house punishment came quite quickly and severely (grounded for a month). I felt it was right because he has just got into a fight the day before and should have been flying under the radar until I've had time to forget about it. This parenting thing is not a science. You tend to teach what you believe is right and hope for the best. Even today I'm not sure I did the right thing if he was telling me the truth about stepping in for a friend which is somewhat admirable in my opinion.
Wasn't there but I'm pretty sure he did. He is naturally quite athletic and I've taught him a few things.
I have 2 boys. One is not an athlete at all, but is very funny and smart as a whip. The other is a brute, but also smart, he is only 2, so I am sure we will have our hands full with both. DD
Oh you will. I have THREE...11, 13 and 14. (I used to think that raising boys would be easier than girls. Definitely not looking like that is going to be the case.)
With a boy, you only have one penis to worry about...when you raise girls you have to worry about all of them.
Seriously...i look at what our culture tells little girls to be...and I'm very relieved i have two boys.
2 of each here...i cant say that either sex is harder than the other...depends on the personalities of the kid u know what they say...little kids = little problems...big kids= big problems
Very interesting, sorta mad i didnt check this thread out earlier....I think the punishment in the end is pretty appropriate, but I gotta give props to FT's kid for sticking up for himself, hopefully the kid will leave him alone now. Both my parents work in schools as well, one in middle school (former elementary), the other in high school, so I hear about some stories as well.
What I tell my kids is that making the other person not want to fight with you again is the key to "winning" a fight, even if you actually lose the fight.
Not commenting on the fighting situation, but I just want to say that there are a lot of BAD teachers in schools. There are a lot of good ones too, but the trend of just saying it's a hard job and to support the school helps allow the bad ones to get away with it. You all pay school taxes. The teachers work for you. Don't allow the bad ones to do a horrible job just because it's a difficult job to do. If you can't handle the job don't take it. My sisters a teacher. She knew it was a tough job when she started as does any other teacher. No matter how tough a job is, it is possible to do an unacceptable job. I gladly support quality teachers, but if a teacher is doing a poor job it is acceptable to want them removed. It's gotten to the point that some teachers think they can cuss etc in the classroom because they know nothing will be done about it.
