I'm still shivering from awful experiences clubbing. In the recent past, somehow I managed to be at the wrong place at the wrong time and attract the largest, b****iest women in the establishment. This one time there was this girl from Jersey who was quite possibly the most scum to ever come out of that state. This was when a friend of mine and this girl and her friend all went out. I couldn't stand it at all anymore; I wanted to vomit all over her, and not in the surprisingly arousing Asian fetish way. So I cut my losses and became "that creepy guy" in corner of the place that just stands there, contemplating and/or eye molesting people. Long story short, I hung out by the bar for a while and all of a sudden this 40 year old................short bald guy starts talking to me about his nearby condo... I haven't been back to a club since early last year. I'll just stick to bars, strip clubs, and the internet.
you don't ask. you just start dancing, this is not the 70's(not that i was even born at that time)! If the girl feels you at all she won't move away. DON"T try any of that compliment bs. it will only work if you are damn good looking. The thing is other guys will be more aggressive, and girls usually have a lot of choices.(if they are decent looking)
Unless you're the drummer, in which case she won't even notice you. Mr Mooch, if you're trying to meet the woman of your dreams, you're probably not going to have much luck trying to choose which drunken bimbo to hit on in a bar. Just my opinion.
Fun thread. Agree with what many other posters have said. A few other comments: 1. Never buy a girl a drink. It's like the dark side of the force: it's the "quick and easy way" to get her to talk to you, but it will ultimately come back to bite you in the ass. It sets a bad precedent. It's expensive. It makes you look like a chump. Most importantly, it doesn't distinguish the girls who are into you from the girls who aren't. 2. Never ask a girl to dance. Besides the reasons that others have pointed out, a girl's natural response is to say (like she's the clever one that thought of this line first), "But I AM already dancing!" 3. He who hesitates is lost. When standing around a cute girl, don't dawdle. If you stand there awkwardly, you don't look confident. Plus, you leave the chance that some other shmuck will come and talk to her first. 4. Confidence Theory: It's all about the confidence. More important than money, dancing skills, style, clothes, or even--yes--looks. Act confident and you're set. Now you might ask, well, okay, but how do you gain confidence if you're not already confident? Good question. Think of it like weightlifting. If you're a skinny runner, you don't start by benching 200 pounds. You start will the barbell. And then you throw on 10 pounds. And then 20. And so on. Same thing with women. First, you hit on the ugly girls. I'm serious. At the beginning of the night, be charming to some plump girl who's clearly worse looking than you. SHE'LL be the nervous one. SHE'LL be flattered you're even talking to her. Get her number. Once that's under your belt, move on to the next. And so on. Yes. I'm going to hell. (Also, shameless self plug -- for some more clubbing stuff I've written, here's an article on Clubbing Dos and Dont's: )
My father-in-law, who was once in a band, says other then the love of music the main reason to be in a band is to get girls.
I forgot to add one more thing... start dating fatty hotties and then... and then... dang, I forgot the next step...
I agree and disagree with this. Depends on the type of girl you are going for. Im generally attracted to hot, b****y, snobby, rich chicks who think they are awesome. Not buying girls like that a drink is a recipe for disaster...they'll see you as a cheap ass and not worth their time. Thats why its good to get a table and buy a bottle. They like that...and I like them. However, If I just want a chill chick to kick it with, then its not a must to buy a drink.
If you ask male rock musicians, 99.9 percent of them will say that they started playing music for the girls.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mystery_Method Mystery Method is a methodology to teach seduction to males. It was created by Erik von Markovik, more often known as "Mystery," a pseudonym he adopted on online forums, most notably on the newsgroup alt.seduction.fast. The Mystery Method was developed through a series of posts on alt.seduction.fast, and by now is developed enough to be organized and marketed effectively, independently of alt.seduction.fast. Mystery himself is considered "the World's Greatest Pickup Artist,"[citation needed] and is responsible for coining much of the terminology now used in the world of seduction: such as AFC (average frustrated chump), HB (hot babe), "neg hits", etc. Mystery Method is now marketed online, via books, DVD sets, and most notably, live seminars and teaching with various instructors, including Markovik himself. He is one of the newer entrants into the world of online seduction teachings, established beforehand by Ross Jeffries, and including teachers such as David DeAngelo. The method itself revolves around the central principle of distinguishing oneself from the crowd. Markovik was a major character in the book "The Game," by Neil Strauss. Strauss himself, dubbed "Style," is a major advocate and occasional guest instructor for the Mystery Method. Strauss writes about Markovik in detail in the book, including methodologies and personality quirks.
Don't compliment her eyes...compliment her shoes, or her earrings..make her talk about herself while you bump and grind and before you know it you'll be having those legs around your neck!
You can compliment anything...it all works the same, they'll happily accept any compliment. However, if you are in a crowded place, for instance, complimenting shoes wouldnt really work since it would be hard to check out shoes in that type of environment. It would come off as a little awkward or strange. Just depends on the situation.
Let me tell you a story, the other night I was in a nightclub, as usual I Fernando was surrounded by beautiful women, I could have made love to any number of them, then this really ugly girl come in. All fat, hairy and ugly and stuff. Like a big fat cow, all walking on 2 legs ya know? But she had the most beautiful eyes I ever saw, it was like opening a big dirty crabby shell and finding a beautiful pearl...
lol i dont know if youre joking or what, but i actually know this kind of dumply looking girl, and she has the most cheerful personality that i've ever met and was just so friendly and warm. she has a boyfriend that most people would say 'could do better than her' and she's always surrounded by guys talking and hugging her.
This is actually one of the most difficult things in the world...you just have to face the fact that you will get rejected, but eventually you will succeed...the real question is whether your pride can take getting shot down a few times or maybe a few dozen times before you get a girl or two to dance with you, if you're intoxicated, that usually helps, just go out to have a good time and if something happens it happens
yep. I only know a small handful of musicians who picked up their instruments for other reasons. believe it or not...like Deck said...being the sound/light/whatever guy for bands is an advantageous profession to attract girls. god I loved those days.
