I don't have a problem with hand-holding, the occasional kiss (not a makeout session), or an arm around the waist and have no problem doing these in public. Sitting on the same side of the booth is a bit awkward, but some situations (noisy place) may call for it. What is really awkward though is those that stand against each other with their arms around each other and their faces inches apart as they talk and kiss every 30 seconds. Usually this is teenagers, though. Last time I was waiting to get a haircut this was happening with two teens standing a few feet away in my line of vision.
Sure, I could easily give her a peck on the lips every night without getting horny... but opening that door just the slightest bit will lead to us pushing and pushing our boundaries and eventually we will feel it is okay to kiss briefly on the lips when we're just hangin out, and then its okay to makeout with no tongue and so and so forth. The goal is to stay as far away from the cliff as possible, not to be peeking over the ledge. Also, me not kissing her is a way of showing her how I care for her and am looking out for her. We don't know if we're going to marry eachother. We are just dating, we don't belong to eachother. If I'm sharing that intimacy with her, and that's NOT my future wife, then I am robbing her future husband of that special intimacy as well as my future wife. And as far as rushing into marriage because we want to have sex goes... we are both in college and we have been dating for just over 11 months. We both have at least two more years of school left (neither of us want to be married/engaged etc before we are out of school) and her parents tell her that she can't marry until she is living on her own after school and working and providing for herself for at least 2 years (Asian culture). We both know that if we were to get engaged, we have a loong way to go before that could happen. Because of this we can put sex waaay on the backburner and gauge our relationship solely on keeping God in the center. If we feel God is leading us into marriage after all of this time, then the question of whether or not the sex will be good is a freakin afterthought. I'm not doubting that sex can complicate things and can cause problems in a relationship. But I guarantee you that if we eventually get married and have still kept God in the center of our relationship, sex will NEVER make or break our relationship. Hope that answers some questions. Feel free to ask more.
Repped...that is awesome. When I go out to a club (been a while for that) with my g/f I'd encourage her to go get a drink by herself. There's usually some fool eager to buy her one, except she doesn't drink. Bam...a few minutes later i've got a free drink in my hand.
that's just funny. when i was younger....like in high school...this might have bothered me. but i'm married to my best friend. neither of us is going anywhere. she was at the gas station a few weeks back and some guy behind her says: "do you cook too?" she said, "i'm an awful cook." he said, "you're my dream girl, anyway" to which she replied: "that's what my husband says." touche
That is genius my friend, I will need to do this. It actually makes you feel good as a guy and being the lucky guy to have your gf
My girl gets hit on all the time. It used to bother me because she worked in modeling/television. It was different than having it be some regular douche off the street or a dumbass in the club hitting on her vs a male model, actor or producer. However she is very grounded and realized that the majority of those guys were just as sleazy if not more. (Not to mention she got a great catch in me and would never want to lose it ) When we got married she left that life behind because she wanted a stable job and a secure marriage. Now were focused on traveling and enjoying our time together and in a few years, God willing, kids. Point is that as a man you should not feel threatened no matter who it is. The only thing that you can control in your relationship is your own actions. Focus on trying to be the best b/f, g/f, spouse you can be and keep both eyes open to their needs without sacrificing too many of your own. Always maintain that sureness in yourself and strength of character and you have done your part. If she doesn't realize it then you betted on the wrong horse and its time to move on.
I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 18 we are still young, but honestly she was my bestfriend for a year and a half before I even saw her as a potential gf I was always running around partying pretty much like SCK lol. But she got my life on track, yes I still party but just occasionaly. She's honestly the only girl I see myself marrying, am I just naive to think this? I don't think so, we have such great chemistry it would be hard for both of us to let go honestly.
Im happy for you bro. I know right now you are looking at this girl like she is the only one for you. It might play out like that. However, as time goes on, especially being the age that you guys are, things can change quickly. Both of you will grow and mature. With this process comes change in our likes, behaviors and long term goals for both of you. If the reality sets in that you both begin to grow apart into different adults, don't be surprised. This happens all the time. (It happened to me.) The chemistry that makes you guys so awesome, changes because you're no longer the same people. Enjoy the moments you have together and celebrate being young and in love. DONT rush into things because you feel obligated to due to the fact that you have been together so long and have gone through so much together. DONT rush into things because you are afraid of losing that person. DONT rush into things because you feel like you owe it to that person because they love you so much. Good luck man. Your life is just beginning.
First, thanks for the advice bro. Yeah I know she's the one, we are very mature for our age due to the fact I've worked for everything I've ever had, both my parents live at home, but my father always thought me the values of cherishing things cuz you worked for them. My gf grew up without her dad, dood was a druggie. We have been together for almost two years in two months and honestly I know people grow out of their personalities, I'm in love man what can I say? Just hope we stay together, plus she shares the same love for the Rockets.
Dude, my friend is EVERYTHING you just listed. His habits drive me crazy... Look people, I dont have any problems with loving your significant other. I have been with mine for 6 years and I wouldn't change any of that. With that though, there is a time and place for everything. Seriously When I want to have a conversation with you, and you're rubbing your girlfriends back all the time, playing footsies, and kissing her shoulder, its a little distracting. I mean look, you're 28 years old, grow up a little. Also I dont need to hear about how shes always wonderful. I get it you have a girlfriend who is a good person. I see it with my own eyes, and you dont need to keep bringing it up and bringing attention to yourself. Oh and next time, if I bring up constructive criticism, I am not taking a stab at you. I am trying to help you. You dont need to be all defensive all the time.
dude, 11 months?? and I thought i was being a gentleman by waiting a few weeks :grin: Props to you, but i just couldnt do it, unless she was literally a perfect match for me and it was really important for her to wait
Aww, you sound like my boyfriend when we were that age. He was my best friend for a year before anything happened between us, and we were 14 when we got together. We have been together for 7 years now. Growing up together in a relationship can be very difficult, but if you both genuinely love each other, it can last. You're both going to make plenty of mistakes, but as long as you learn from those mistakes and put each other first, everything will be fine.
^QFT...Repped Repped...Now I will say I do get annoyed when someone hits on my girl in front of me, its a little disrespectful but she's beautiful, so after awhile it doesn't bother you, you actually feel proud in the fact she's hot..
I let it happen it doesn't bother me, just let's you know your girl is good looking. Plus if she gives him a diss makes it even more sweet, n makes me love my girl even more!!
