Hey Robert Paulsen of 233 duckworth st. be sure to physically come pick up your laptop at the office tomorrow. I would list your social security number too, but we all know youre an illegal and dont have one.
Thanks. Things could be better, but she's a really kind-hearted person and I love her very much, and think we'll ultimately be alright. And if not, I'm going to see that she come out of the marriage okay. Hopefully we can get into counseling soon and the counselor will convince her that not everything going wrong in the world is my fault (just most of it). I hear you on friends. We honestly didn't have many that we did things with, primarily just family, but now with my wife's Covid fears... we'll probably be starting from scratch when all is said and done.
Aww man. I hate to hear that. I sure hope it gets better. Marriage definitely doesn't work itself in my experience, that's for sure. It takes both people. Either way how it goes, pulling for ya!
The pandemic has been horrifying for mental health issues. Exercise and get outdoors. 30mins Daily of aerobic, and add in resistance training a few days per week. Also, go to a park, go hiking, camping, etc. If you like that sort of thing, but just getting outdoors and regular exercise will go a long way.
I was probably a little overdramatic. We'll be good. We just have to work on some things, including ourselves. Appreciate the well wishes though!
I once tried to get my wife to go into therapy with me because of our political disagreements. Now, we just talk about them less lol. She's not big on therapy, whereas I'm all for it. It happens.
I've seen therapy mess people up too (thinking of some people close to me). If your significant other isn't totally committed and ready to make changes it can potentially do more harm than good, at least IMO. My wife is very sensitive and sweet, but she's stubborn and not big on self reflection. Then there's me, who's bigger on self reflection, meditation, "the meaning of it all," etc., but still deeply flawed. We could definitely use outside help. But taking that first step is still a little frightening.
Yeah, I suspect you are right as well if a significant other isn't ready to make the changes or committed that's for sure. It's definitely scary though, going to therapy at first usually is. You don't know fully what to expect and that sort of deal. Good luck man I hope it provides some help for you guys!
Thanks for the comments gents. My symptoms were really bad last month and have slowly been subsiding. Been feeling better this month going outside more/communicating with friends and have felt wayyyy better. Noticed my jaw was more tight than usual and I've been grinding my teeth during sleep so I'm trying my best to fix that right now and destress.
Around September of last year I had a complete breakdown and finally had to go get medical help. I was bad before COVID but once COVID started I lost all desire to do anything outside of work or drink. After I got help i found enjoyment in cooking and tennis again. It had been YEARS since I had any desire to go do something physical. Sadly it took things getting so terrible that I had to completely breakdown before I got help.... which I only accepted because my wife and sister forced me to. I can’t believe my dumb ass put it off for so long. Don’t ignore it.
Nice to see you're getting that enjoyment back again. What kind of help did you get? Talked to a psychologist or something else?
I used to just roll my eyes when people suggested getting outside and getting exercise. Seemed like an over-simplified answer to a complicated question. I've been working from home (full time) for a year now and I started feeling pretty alone and isolated. Minor issues at work were turning into huge issues in my mind because there was no one to talk to and bounce ideas off of, etc. Started feeling stressed and getting anxiety and it was starting to affect my family life. I started turning off my computer for an hour every day and taking a walk around the greenbelt. Fast paced walking and deep breathing. In through the nose, hold it, out through the mouth, hold it, repeat. Not even listening to music, just the wind and the birds chirping. It's made a HUGE difference in my state of mind. Now I look forward to my walks every day. Even blocked them off on my Outlook calendar.
Also, you have GOT to get 7 to 9 hours of good sleep every night. Getting good sleep is the best thing you can do for your body and your brain - and it doesn't even cost anything. Your bedroom should only be used for sleep and sex. No TV, no devices. Keeping a consistent sleep schedule has made a world of difference for me. And yes, try to have sex at least 3 or 4 times a week.
