How is this even a question? Do NOT let her pin the guilt from her abortion on you. If you don't want to marry this girl, then don't. It will fall apart anyway and you will be miserable, and right back where you started. If she aborts this baby because you won't marry her, that's her choice, and hers alone. You are not choosing to kill that child, she is. Her parents are. They are using the life of a child to blackmail you. Be there for her, be there for the kid, but DO NOT MARRY THIS GIRL TO KEEP THE BABY. I don't know how much clearer I can make it. IT IS HER CHOICE
where does HER decision weigh in on all of this? her parents don't sound like they have their daughters best interests at the forefront of their agenda. if all they care about is saving face and losing their honor, or becoming the subject of gossip, these are all the worst reasons to even consider what the parents want in this situation. she's 21 years old. it's time for you and your SO-ex gf(is she one or the other?) to figure this one out on your own.
Heads - Happiness Tails - The right thing no no, don't make decisions like that, coins don't have a say. Maybe the girl (and her mother) wants to have the baby.... but they want you to support her.
First and foremost, DNA test. It doesn't matter what she says. If you have so much as 0.01% doubt, take that DNA test. Besides, it's her choice anyway. Don't let her fool you into taking responsibility into something that might not be yours. Even if it's yours, don't marry her. Just make sure you're there for the kid. Her parents should have no say in this.
Dude fight for your child if they dont want there daughter to have a child try to get full custody give your your ex rights to see her child when she wants to so your child still have a chance to see it's mother espically if she changes her mind. Offer this and you should be OK. But pease dont marry someboy just because you got her pregnaunt thats worst having a child grow up in a moveless marrage.
I understand. Completely. but the reality is. . . IMO . . a Marriage would not heal or fix anything You know it. The idea of your child perishing can be heavy I share your pain in that. . . .a part of YOU not giving the opportunity but Blackmail and extortion are not going to make this work out. QUESTION: and I am not trying to be cruel but Is there *ANYWAY* this marriage could work? I personally don't think so. this does not seem to be an instance you ya'll going through a funk . . this is more of ya'll broke up and I will assume for good reasons . . . #1 thing though . .. let them know upfront "I am not saying your daughter is sleeping around but I have to have 99.999999999% sure that baby is mine and a DNA test will help with that" If you get married. . . and it ain't yours. . well too bad it is yours now!! rocket River
A condom is not a get out of jail free card. If you are nowhere near ready to be a father, the logical leap is that you are nowhere near ready to have intercourse RATHER THAN "let's just off the offspring!" Take a walk with that thought, please...
When you open the paternity test results, put it face down on the table and flip it up God of Gamblers style. Surefire way to make the baby not yours.
How much of it is "claiming" and how much of it is "I'm almost certain it's mine but I don't want to do it"? Were you with her within the "timeframe"? Is it really questionable as to whether it's yours or not? Just asking.
String her along until it's too late to get an abortion and then don't marry her. Then you demand a DNA test before you have to pay child support for 18 years. You're welcome.
Marry her or have the baby. When the child is older and you see the beautiful smile on their face and the magical twinkle in their eye, you'll tell yourself you made the right decision. Do it for the kid.
Every sperm is sacred. Every sperm is great. Except for the 299,999,999 other LOSERS in each batch. Soulless red herrings the lot of em. <object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/uNgotUM4gk8&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/uNgotUM4gk8&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object> Seriously, no matter what you decide, you made the right decision. Just be glad Kleenex don't get pregnant. Or towels. Or t-shirts. You do right by that textile.
It's sad that they are forcing the girl to have an abortion if she doesn't get married... Just tell her that it's her choice, not her parents. They cannot force her to get an abortion.
This. It makes me sick too that the life of an unborn baby is being threatened in order to try to force you into marriage, but if she aborts that baby, the blood is on her own hands, and I don't see how you are in any way culpable. And what the other person said ... she has to understand this. The blood of that baby is on her own hands if she aborts it. She alone must deal with that guilt. Not her parents, not you, not anybody else.
Was she the one in your car [when I met you outside Worst Buy that time], or a different girl? It doesn't matter, I was just asking to make myself a mental picture... ----- You all need to talk face to face with a moderator in the room, and you should let them know how you feel. That's about all you can hope for. Your feelings toward the "A" thing should be known, and you should also talk maturely with the father and soon-to-be-mother. They both should understand you mean NO HARM to anyone, or to break up their family. I do believe you SHOULD get a paternity test, if she's claiming this and you're denying it. It's the only way. Besides, if you don't really want any part with the child, it's up to you... the State of Texas will say what you have to do if he is in fact yours. Much luck, sir. You're a nice guy, man, I don't see how anything bad should happen to you (or to anyone, for that matter).
