I disagree with you on this, TBar. The first date you want to do something where you are able to talk with each other. You are not able to have conversations when you are watching a movie. And honestly, I think dinner and a movie is too much for a first date. Just take her to dinner and see how it goes and then take it from there. Good luck!
yeah, but then again dinner's not that exciting. maybe it's because i'm not the master conversationalist, but i've gotta be doing something other than sitting down eating and talking for a possible 1-2 hours. action dates work a little better for me , just because hell if ya don't have anything else to say, talk about how bad she was at bowling/mini golf, blah blah etc. unless i'm doing something wrong on dinner dates, i just don't see them as that effective. plus you're doing what every other guy's done that week, take her out to dinner.
Good point- you need to interact. A movie does not do that. Recall "Taxi Driver"-Robert Deniro's character - Travis Bickell just wanted to show her a good time.-Just kidding- you referenced this scene in another thread a long time ago and I laughed out loud at work when I remembered it was at a sleazy porno theatre. Putt- Putt is a good idea. That garden area at the Herman Park or the Cockrell butterfly facility might be good. There is a really nice show at the Museum of Fine arts right now- coffee at the Cafe Express in the basement -good conversation.
take her walking down montrose. you'll never run out things to talk about. just make sure you cover your bunghole.
lmao, I didn't even remember talking about that but I found the thread you are referencing: http://bbs.clutchfans.com/showthread.php?t=93283&page=1&pp=20&highlight=Travis+Bickle Wow, thanks TBar for reminding me that I said that and better yet for getting a kick out of it!
El Toro....since you two know each other fairly well, a typical conversation-centered first date is not neccessary. What you really want to find out is if you are romantically compatable. Therefore, you should do something romantic for this first date. Here is my suggestion: Take her on a road trip up 290 to Brenham/Chappel Hill in the afternoon. The wildflowers are in full bloom. Bring a camera along and you can take pictures of each other amidst the wildflowers. Go into downtown Brenham, walk around, and hit some antique stores. There are also a few in Chappell Hill. Stop off somewhere for a casual late lunch/early dinner.
chappell hill is awesome. i go there about once a year to a bed and breakfast. i love the feel of the place and there's this great pie bakery.
10 Dates for Less than 10 Bucks Ten bucks. It barely buys a movie ticket. It won’t buy a martini. No way it’s buying dinner for two. But with a little charm, creativity, and conniving, you can turn ten bucks—less than the cost of sponsoring a child in Africa—into a magical date, an evening so romantic, so dazzling, it will melt her heart and win her forever. Well, no. But the dates are respectable enough to warrant sex, and that’s what counts. Use these dates judiciously. For every two bargain dates, take her to a proper restaurant. Variety matters. And ladies, stop reading now. Really. These are ugly truths. 1 “Oh my God – you haven’t SEEN that?” The key to renting a movie—and not looking like a cheap b*stard—is to lay the groundwork. Look for classic romances that she might have missed. Skip the obvious: she’s probably seen “Casablanca.” But maybe not “Doctor Zhivago” or “Roman Holiday.” If this topic hasn’t come up? Relax. Confess a closeted interest in romantic movies, chat about your favorites, and engage her in a playful debate about the genre’s all-time best. When you discover which one she hasn’t seen, feign shock. Tell her that it’s your responsibility, your duty, to make her watch it immediately. 2 Cook her dinner You score points for style, you’ve lured her into your apartment, and you save fifty bucks. Before mentioning the dinner, try and ferret out her favorite food. Prepare a dish that incorporates it. For the extra budget-conscious, just get her favorite vegetable, and throw it into a pasta entrée. Don’t forget the salad and dessert. Candles are a must. Even if the food is awful, which it probably will be, she’ll appreciate your effort, and it looks like you’re spending all this energy because you really, really like her. Heh. Plus, the whole enterprise comes off as more romantic, more inspired, than plopping your butts down at a restaurant. Added bonus: odds are good that she’ll bring the wine. 3 Sex You can use sex to save money. This requires, obviously, that you’ve hooked up before. But once you’re in, you’re in. Exploit sex to sabotage any expensive-sounding plan. Example: let’s say that at 9 o’clock, you plan to try that yummy-looking French fusion restaurant. ($80, easy.) Meet at her place. Arrive 10 minutes early. As she’s curling her eyelashes, sneak up behind her—respecting the fine line between suave and creepy—and start nibbling her ear. Worst case scenario, she’ll laugh, ask for patience, and say that she’s really looking forward to that fusion. Best case? Hours later, as you’re caressing her neck and pillow-talking, you order up some cheap take-out. Everyone wins: great sex, she’ll think you’re just that passionate, and you’re only out the chicken lo-mein and a box of Trojans. 4 Happy Hour So obvious it’s easy to overlook. Even in pricey cities like New York, you can find plenty of bars with 2-for-1 drink specials or $1.50 well drinks. Again, the art is in the presentation. And the white lie. Say you’ve “heard good things” about a bar. Find out when happy hour begins, and get there that very second. Don’t mention the happy hour. If possible, lounge with your date in the corner, and buy the drinks at the bar. With any luck, you can score at least two, maybe three rounds of drinks for under 10 bucks. If you’re feeling particularly unchivalrous, buy every drink during happy hour, then let her buy a final round when the prices spike up. 5 Picnic in the park Oldie but goodie. Just because Ben Affleck and Liv Tyler made a mockery of this date in “Armageddon”—don’t ever, ever flirt with animal crackers—you don’t have to avoid picnics forever. Pack a blanket, snacks and frisbee. Ask her if she has a favorite kind of specialty cheese, and then bring that. Pretend that you care. It’s best to meet up in late afternoon, so that you can soak in the sunset and hope for other, less PG-rated activities. 6 Massage Not for the first date. Probably not for the second or third. But once you have the right rapport, a massage is cheap, fun, and sensual, and will almost certainly lead to sex. Make sure you know what you’re doing. If you haven’t done this before and received (genuinely) good reviews, you might be causing her more pain than pleasure. It’s worth checking out a good massage book, such as—yes, it does sound hokey—The New Sensual Massage: Learn to Give Pleasure With Your Hands by Gordon Inkeles. 7 Community Service Nothing says romance like the soup kitchen. Okay, so it’s not for everyone. Employ this date with caution. And yeah, if you’re as cynical as I am, it’s tough to keep a straight face when suggesting that you pick up some crap off the highway together. But if you can pull it off, you win all kinds of good-guy points, you have fun together, and you don’t spend a nickel. Plus, it’s always fun laugh at the elderly and homeless. Girls like that. 8 Shoot pool Call ahead. At some point during the week, even the ritziest pool hall has a special rate. Plan accordingly. What if it’s Tuesday at 8:00 pm? So be it. She doesn’t know the discount schedule. Tell her that you have a hectic week, and that Tuesday at 8 is your only opening. Regardless of your talent level, or hers, pool is a game that’s designed for flirting. Raise the stakes by making some playful wagers. Plus, pool is an especially good activity for a girl that you really don’t have that much interest in talking to. 9 The beach An underutilized date. Free, warm, and full of good vibes. The beach is also the only date where her entire outfit consists of what amounts to bra and panties. Keep the ogling to a minimum, and don’t get caught gawking at the other bikinied eye candy. Make it fun—bring a football or volleyball. Wiggle your toes in the sand, splash in the water, bask in the sunshine, all that crap. 10 The Museum Fool her into thinking you’re sophisticated. It’s cheap, it kills a few hours, and it gives you something to talk about. Okay, so some museums might cost more than $5 each. If you’re really strapped for cash, pay for her ticket and skip the suggested “donation” for yourself. (Do this when she’s somehow distracted.) All kidding aside, thanks to the culturally rich, stimulating nature of the museum, you might actually learn something important about her, about art, about yourself. Just kidding.
Excellent, Rasselas. I have used #2, #5 & #10 with my current girlfriend. #2 rocks. If you cook a nice romantic dinner for your date and you don't get lucky, it means either you're a crappy cook or you look like Jabba the Hut. Otherwise, it's money. Did #10 (French Impressionist exhibit at the MFA) and she loved it. Ditto #5....picnic at Washington on the Brazos state park.
Yes, that was super gay... Dinner on a first date is good and definitley the road trip for dates in the future...I like the Sambuca route as its dinner and dancing...But I also like Ruggles...I'll be having a date this Friday and I'll be at either one of these two...Yes, its our first date...
First of all, is this a guy or girl you're taking out? I noticed you skillfully have nothing in your post that indicates gender, with the reference to the stroll (and yes that does sound gay).
Ever since you got confused with finalsbound and her gender, you find yourself really having to ask this question, lol.
pictures in the wildflowers??? antique hunting? are you serious? this aint Sex in the City of Houston.
