That is my thought though. He's not the only neighbor. She can ask someone else. If someone comes into my yard and startles me, I would have asked them to leave. He had a good reason not to in that he probably didn't appreciate being startled like that. I don't think coming over only when in need of something, even something as menial as a signature, is any way to cultivate a neighborly relationship. I think it is pretty inconsiderate of her to introduce herself only in time of need.
And that's cool if that's your thing. You're right. No big deal. It shouldn't be a big deal either if he politely says no.
Yes, he's not the only neighbor, and I'm certain she got her signatures elsewhere. I'm also certain that she told other neighbors how rude OP was. Being startled is a good reason to be a dick? Absolutely wrong. OP had plenty of time to step back, settle down, and reassess the situation. In time of need? It's a signature.... She's not asking him for a kidney. And like I said, if he didn't want to sign it, there were better ways of declining than "it's my right to say no." You should always try to cultivate good relationships with neighbors. When I was a kid, my basketball bounced into my neighbor's backyard once. I rang the neighbor's doorbell and asked if he could get it. He said no. Fast forward to a few weeks later. I was shooting around on my driveway at around 9 AM on a Sunday morning. The neighbor opene his window and ask me to stop b/c he was trying to sleep. I said no.
....then you have to live buy a person that wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. It's not like she was asking for a ride to the airport, just sayin'.
Rude? Seriously? So anytime someone asks you to do something, whether it puts you out or not, it's rude to say no? Then why not just tell him to do it? I never said being startled gave him a reason to be a dick. She needed a signature. It was a time of need. She needed something, so all of the sudden, it's time to make friends? Sure, he remarked it was his right. Didn't she come out and make a remark about her "not trying to sell him something". Now is that cultivating a relationship?
As I said before, Why not? There's never a bad time to make friends. Using your logic, it would be impossible to meet your neighbors.
Actually, it is real easy. When I see them, I wave at them and say hi, good morning, or good afternoon. I sure don't walk into their backyard and say, "Hi, I live next door. I need a signature. Can you help me out?"
That's what you call meeting your neighbors? Waving? You didn't even learn their names. How do you even know they're your neighbors? They could be visiting your actual neighbors.
No. That's how I break the ice. After a few exchanges, I go over and introduce myself. Seems to work just fine. On the same note, how is Roxran supposed to know this lady is his neighbor? he already said he only saw hispanics in that house, and saw the lady only once or twice, and I don't recall reading her offering a hi or a wave
Its a matter of inconvenience. A ride to the airport is a huge inconvenience. A signature takes maybe 2 seconds. Even if you want to factor in small-talk, that's a few minutes. Is OP so busy that he can't spare a few minutes meeting and helping out a neighbor whose a cop? Selfish people like you are what's wrong with society.
And by going over and introducing yourself, you're inconveniencing your neighbor. If they shut the door in your face, wouldn't you think they were dicks?
He was working in the garden. He may have been deep in thought. He was about to take his kids to soccer practice. Hahahaha!!! People like me are the problem with society? Hahahaha!!! That pure gold! Thanks for the midnight laugh!
I don't go to their door. I don't want to be a dick and interrupt them when they might be busy. I'll wave, ask how their doing, walk towards them and read their body language. If they keep walking, it's cool. If they walk my way, I'll introduce myself. I don't think their dicks if they don't want to meet me.
Actually, since his wife had to remind him of the soccer practice, it's safe to assume that the soccer practice wasn't on his mind. And it would've only taken a few minutes at the most. If you can't make a few minutes for your neighbors, don't be surprised when your house gets TP'd or bags of flaming poo find their way to your doorstep. You're welcome. I'm glad you take such joy in your narcissistic selfishness.
Hey Wekko, you keep saying there are better ways he could have handled it. What about her? She had much more time to contemplate what she was doing. Her crappy approach is obviously what brought about his answer. He simply reacted to a situation.
So in other words, in your process of meeting neighbors, you interrupt them (thereby inconveniencing them), and if they don't mind the initial inconvenience, then you can cultivate a neighborly relationship? So I guess everything's fine as long as you're not the one being inconvenienced, right?
