Go over to her place to apologize using any of the methods suggested by users above me, then ask her out to dinner to make it up to her. If all goes well at the dinner, you can go back to her place and "sign" the papers... of course without your wife knowing
If you wouldnt have mentioned her race, I wouldn't think it was a big deal. Clearly it played a bigger part than you are willing to admit. I can't imagine how she might feel either, you both could have handled the situation better. At this point, you can do the right thing and go over to say you are sorry and ask to look over the form so you can sign it. She might even say no at this point.
I don't think I made it clear to others or you, but there are Hispanics clearly living there at the house. I see them almost daily. The black woman hardly..at..all...and like I said maybe twice since February briefly...I am not sure she lives there, due to barely seeing her. She may be a wife or something, but the child is not mixed. For all I know she is passing info as living there when she may only visit, and wants me to be a party to the misinformation as "proof"...That is part of what made me hesitate initially. I should have stated this earlier.
Growing up we had a big backyard and we would play all kinds of games back there. Every now and then a ball would go over to our neighbors fence at first they would just throw them over, but I guess after a while they got annoyed so they would pop whatever ball went back there and throw it back later on leaving it for us to find. So one of my childhood friends dad worked for some company that made toys and my friend brought over a trash bag full of balls that weren't inflated. We put air in them and threw them all over the fence there was 30+ balls in his backyard, since then he never popped another one of our balls, but we never got any of the balls we threw over that day back. ******* neighbors are the worst. I have never used the word "balls" so much in one paragraph.
That's the best way to handle it, hopefully you'll be on your way to having the neighborly relationship I enjoy most (unless they are hot & single lol) the occasional wave, salute, howdy, etc with gratefully little prying, long conversations, intrusions and annoyances. :grin:
Something like: "Sorry, I didn't recognize you immediately, so I wasn't sure if you had loud parties or whatever. Since you live next door, I can definitely verify that you don't have any, so I can sign that form now if you'd like."
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I'm sorry. When tending new blueberry varietals, I become hyper-defensive of my property. In this case, as is typical with most people I'm sure, I shut down and started reviewing various Navy Seal maneuvers that could quickly remove you, the baby, and your possibly loaded clipboard from threat status. So why don't you let me review that form with my legal advisors and-- (door slams)
Oh ok, i guess that does make a difference, but perhaps she stays inside taking care of kids, if she's unemployed, then she doesnt have much reason to go out. Maybe you should try to strike up a convo with the hispanic neighbor. Ask him if that was his wife or something and that you were kind of rude because you'd never seen her before, and therefore did not want to give her personal info.
I gotta disagree with my fellow ClutchFans on this one: I would NOT sign those papers. There are several shady elements here: 1. Entering into someone's backyard without so much as a by-your-leave? In Texas? Why not just hang a sign around your neck that says "Shoot me"? She should have knocked on your front door and, when no one answered, tried some other time. 2. Asking for a favor when you don't even know each other's names? Seems awfully strange to me. 3. She's asking you to testify to something you really don't know is true? You don't know if she's quiet or not. You don't even know for sure if she lives there. She might not even be a neighbor. A perfect stranger asking you to lie on their behalf is a bit messed up. 4. Bringing the kid along definitely seems to me to be a calculated ploy to gain sympathy. A task like that would heve been much easier to complete without a child in tow. The idea that she feels she needs to manipulate people using her kids doesn't speak to highly about her character. 5. I wouldn't sign anything that didn't appear 100% legit to me. Check the document carefully, read it thoroughly. Ask for a copy for your records. If its on the up-and-up, she shouldn't have any objections to that. It may be a good idea to smooth things over: in the end you have to make that call. But I definitely wouldn't sign anything until I we 100% convinced it was not going to come back and bite me in the arse.
Tell her El Hitman is hiring and please take a picture and post it here. Thanks . Seriously, first of all, props to you for coming here and even asking the question, which, to me, shows that at heart you are not a bad guy at all. I would recommend that you ring and say you were surprised by the request, and that it caught you off-guard because you do not really know her so it is difficult for you to provide a reference, but that you did not mean to come off as if you were unhelpful or rude, your reaction was certainly not meant that way. Say that you would be happy to help in principle, but ask for her understanding that you need to first read what the requested reference actually says, as you do not know her personally. Then ask her if she can give you the paper to take with you so you can read it. That is a reasonable request, if she has a problem with that, it's, well, her problem. If it is just that you have not heard loud music from her house as a neighbor, I would probably sign it, but if it actually says something about her character, I would not sign it, as you really do not know anything about her.
1. He said there's no fence, so she could clearly see him and where he was, why would she knock on his door when she knew he was out in his backyard?? 2. Why would names matter? She just wanted him to state she's a good neighbor, as in not being loud, dirty, etc. That can be seen/heard. 3. Same as #2. He can hear/see for the most part what happens at her house. He doesnt need to know what happens inside, just that she's considerate of others living around her. 4. Manipulation? A ploy? Maybe she just was home alone with the kid, what did you want her to do? Leave him home alone? What would that say about her character? 5. It's just a reference man, not co-signing for a car loan....all she would need is his contact info, so that her potential employer can contact him. I'm sure she can get his address on her own, he'd just need to provide a name and phone number.
