Am I strange because I love a girl, but not in a sexual way ?

I've had the same thing happen to me a few times. It's pretty cool actually.

 

Just buy her some trimspa and dump her fat ass.

 

I think your in the wrong thread. This was probably meant for the other thread where the gf threatened to shed 30 lbs for a new beau if her old beau dumps her. LOL.

 

I'm fully aware of the thread. I just saw three separate threads about women issues, and was trying to derail all of them.

 

I just went by what I read. If you're just friends and have no attraction, then why post it here.

 

It could be that you have acheived the proverbial platonic relationship with a beautiful woman; I've heard they exist.

It's more likely however that you are being used as bridge from one relationship to another and when she finds a new boyfriend she won't be around and you'll drift apart.

If you want to get a little deeper in the psychobabble. She probably broke up with a 'bad boy' and will start her next relationship with a 'bad boy' and you are the available 'good boy' she won't have a relationship with.

Deeper still? She probably doesn't think she deserves a 'good boy' because she couldn't keep her daddy from leaving her mommy...or some such **** as that.

Nurse it along maybe and see if it's one of those relationship things, but don't be surprised when it aint.

 

Oh, this is good. Gene scores again! I've seen this one, for sure.

 

my 2 cents.

it seems you are attracted to her (mentally, physically) which usually means you like her. Nothing wrong with that..

I get the sense you want to pursue a relationship with her but dont know how to go about it. Maybe you feel you should be her friend and see what develops.

Just be true to yourself. In Korea we talk about Meeryun alot. [Meeryun is regret] it would be more like the whatif's.

what if you tried to get closer to her?
what if you she liked you?

what could have been?

if you like her be honest with yourself .. if not great hope you guys remain close friends for a long time.

but since you posted this scenario here it may mean you have deeper feelings than you want to admit. Are you looking for another friend? me personally I have enough friends.

J

 

It's called love dude. Welcome to HELL.

 

I have a great girlfriend! AND...two of my best friends are both women (and very good looking too).
I've never not had sexual thoughts about my friends...I think it's totally normal. I've even told them (when drinking of course) that I've had kinky things running through my head.
hot chicks = sexy thoughts! Especally ones that get you Rockets tix for your birthday!

 

I personally think that the sleep walking sex may be an evolutionary adaptation that sticks around. We all should be set once they populate. and they will. I mean that species is gonna have an environmental advantage.

 

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Feature: Glad to be asexual

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the thread title is misleading. he DOES love her in a sexual way. why else would he be broken hearted as was said in another thread.

 

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"Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not!
Harry: Do to.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do to.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry: I guess not.
Sally: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York."