Yeah sounds like your the "friend". She is still thinking about that "other boyfriend" and deep inside she probably wishes she didn't **** things up by scaring him. He probably was the guy who gave her little interest and when she started "showing interest" he got "scared". You on the other hand probably revealed your hand by joking about her getting a new boyfriend. Everybody knows what that "joke" really means. At that moment, she knows she GOT you. In summary, she knows your interested and she can have you any time she wants. And the other guy she's pining over, she can't get him out of her mind. So yeah, you are friendzoned and you should move on. On the brightside, don't worry there's plenty of fish in the sea.
some of the advice in this thread makes me laugh. i've been married to my best friend for 12 years. she was my best friend from college. we went through all sorts of weird periods where one of us was dating someone else...and before we started dating, we both went through the, "holy crap, it's a little scary to risk my best friend" thing. but it was most definitely worth it. and the fact that you're friends actually helps, in spite of traditional frat boy philosophy. i'd say take a shot...tell her how you feel. it's a lot easier to live with getting shot down than it is to live with regret. regret is the worst.
I think that you are friendzoned, but what do you have to lose? First off, wait until she is over this other guy. You are setting yourself up for absolute failure if you tell her how you feel while she still has feelings for someone else. Once she's really moved on, tell her how you feel. Nothing to lose
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Well that could happen if you guys were good friends first. Brightside didn't really have that foundation with this girl. They were "friends" but really they were just feeling eachother out (making out, flirting, etc). The difference is they had more of a "dating" relationship rather than a friendship.
Man, what a bunch of quitters you guys are. If she got a little from him, she's probably going to come back for more... Keep your door open, she'll walk in, just make sure to bolt down everything and cover it with plastic so she doesn't steal or wreck the joint after her rebound.
I disagree with most of the responses here. Girls don't typically agree to go on a couple dates with a guy they plan on friendzoning. They know pretty quick. They especially don't make out with them. (Unless this girl is a drunk/slut. In which case treat her as such) I think this girl just is either saving you as a backup. (In which case, instead of getting friendzoned, you f-buddy her like another poster said) Or she wants the attention that comes from a guy competing with another guy for her affection. I dated a girl once who talked about other guys on our first date. I was confused. It doesn't mean jack. I was getting the business by date 5. DO NOT agree to be her friend or act friend like. These are your options: 1) Be casual with her and ask her out, if she says no play it off and just ignore her. 2) Tell her you like her and you want this to go somewhere but she needs to be upfront with you. (Not recommended) 3) Tell her you're only interested in a "casual" relationship. (Yes) 4) Drop her altogether 5) Be her friend and let her cry on your shoulder every time her vagina is sore
you got played like an idiot. Don't get me wrong you can make something out of it though. File her under the booty call category from now on.
Rocky Balboa? Well done, joto. Well done. BUT, ummm... yes, she doesn't want to get with you. I tend to believe you said something that turned her off. She was THINKING about maybe letting you Hathaway it, but you lost that chance, too.
tell her you want to take her to this really romantic evening tonight at irving plaza. she'll love you or hate you afterwards.
This is exactly what it sounds like to me too. I'd punch her in the breasts next time you see her and run like hell.
boy you guys scare off easily. If YOU want to go out with her, pursue it. Kick Mr. 3 weeks to the curb. If you're not into her, then get on with your life. And if she defriends you in the process....so be it.
