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Am i a stalker? (be prepared to read)

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by HKC, Mar 16, 2009.

  1. Royals Ego

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    When we're little, we make friends, these friend's keep our actions and thoughts from dipping into the crazy side. I take it you're a loner, and you are desperately wanting a relationship, and because you have already established a foundation with this woman, it is very hard for a lonely person to let go of that grasp.

    Are you working? Are you in school? Both? Meet new people. Get a hooker. Anything to take your mind off her. Writing love poems through MySpace must be the most weird thing I have ever heard... especially when she's not reciprocating. The whole relationship is creepy, let her live her life, and you do the same.

    I love you.
     
  2. Lady_Di

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    Yeah, please get some help.

    Stalking her is not a way to get her to fall in love with you.
     
  3. King1

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    No way this is real. 8/10 for entertainment value. Would have given it 10/10, the the OP was too long. Solid troll job though.
     
  4. Kam

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    that's creepy.


    even for me.
     
  5. professorjay

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    I could point out all the plot holes, but this sums it up succinctly. I'm not kidding.

    And am I the only one curious as to the undisclosed 'problems' that led to his discharge? I wouldn't be surprised to see a pattern in here.
     
  6. HKC

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    Okay people saying shes not even real and she may be fat and or a dude. Ihave SEEN her and she has SEEN me, but not in PERSON.

    Of course i have chatted with her on cam all the time. It's really her lol and she knows its really me. lol

    And yes, i know you people dont believe i get laid, but its the truth as much as my story.

    Dont worry everyone, what i set out to do, was something beautiful.

    I ended up letting my emotions get the best of me and ruin it and turn into an ugly thing and end up looking like a monster. But, not in the way you all explain it. She is not scared of me. She thinks im amazing but b/c of my actions, she gets pissed off at me for being impatient. I was never like this at first, but once it started getting past 2.5 years, i couldn't help it.

    Also to clarify more detail. I have tried to surprise her and see her, ended up bad. At the time, i didnt know she was married. It was a huge deal but i got over it and she admitted it. I knew she was always getting in fights with him and thsoe were the times she would talk to me. I know it sounds *****ed up but i liked helping her. And i never asked for anything in return.

    You all think im crazy and pathetic. Perhaps, but what you dont know is that all i want is to get that chance in person. If it's not meant to be after that point, i can move on. Anyone can move on, point is i dont want to yet until i get my 'real' chance since talking isn't 'real.'
     
  7. rocketfan83

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    Yes you are a stalker. You need some help. The BBS is a great way to get advice but this way beyond anything I have read on here in 7 years...

    Step away from the computer and get professional help this is not healthy...

    And thank you for your service
     
  8. no_answer

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    She doesn't want to meet you obviously, so why don't you just leave her alone? Why would anyone want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them? Find a girl who wants to be with you. It shouldn't be that hard, since you get girls all the time.
     
  9. Exiscion

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    It still doesn't change the fact that you have not met her in real life. I don't understand how you can get so emotionally involved with someone you really don't know. Whatever she said to you online could be all BS, you know.
     
  10. HKC

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    I did lie. I have told a friend about this. 1 friend. Coincidentally this friend is a ***** buddy. But shes cool and were good friends. She knows i talk about it all the time and b/c she knows me she thinks its sweet. She knows more detail than i have given here and yes there is more detail.

    I have decided to leave her alone b/c its not healthy for me anymore and its what she asked. Even though the day after she told me to leave her alone and i said i would, she put up one of those girly pictures on her myspace saying "I want a guy who wont stop calling even after i tell him to leave me alone"

    I appreciate everyone's input, even the harsh ones. It's all good, you don't know me and you dont know her and what we share.

    I also agree that though i only wanted for us to see each other and start from there, i have to admit i put her on a pedestal and its pretty bad that i might be the one who ends up disappointed and leave her...

    I will leave it alone and WHEN she contacts me, i will tell her to forget everything unless she wants to take the next step in meeting up asap.

    Thank you everyone.
     
  11. ccada

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    I appreciate everyone's input, even the harsh ones. It's all good, you don't know me and you dont know her and what we share.
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    I'm interested to know your definition of sharing when you didn't know this woman was married. C'mon man.
     
  12. Lady_Di

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    I don't think you won't leave her alone. You seem pretty persistent on this. In case if she says that she wants to meet you then you will do the same cycle.

    So when she contacts you, DO NOT TALK TO HER OR ANYTHING. NOTHING. She's just stringing you along. Please, just let it go.
     
  13. HKC

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    I'm interested to know your definition of sharing when you didn't know this woman was married. C'mon man.[/QUOTE]


    This was in the first few months of first talking with her. I gt over it b.c she was crushed and clearly depressed and crying about it. She has a good heart and she deserved a second chance. We all **** up. She admits she never thought it would be what it ended up being. We both thought we would exchange a few emails and that would be it. Not the case. Unfortunately im the one who ended up falling deeper during rough times and while she decided it was best to give it another chance with her cheating exhusband. Something i understood and accepted.
     
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    Leave that woman alone man, it's over. Move the hell on.
     
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  17. ima_drummer2k

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    LOL, you "got over" her being married?

    Bless your heart....
     
  18. Master Baiter

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    Yeah because she is so much better than her cheating husband by emotionally stringing along some fool (that would be you). This makes her no better than her husband at all. You would be perfectly happy to nail her even though she is married and that makes you no better than either of them.

    There is NO way for this to end good for you. Even if for some crazy reason she finally does meet you, all you will be getting is some trashy w**** that can't be happy with what she has and obviously doesn't have the decency to respect her husband, herself, or you. Women (or men) like her are not trustworthy and are nothing but trouble.

    So you can either continue to brood over someone that isn't worth brooding over, be with her and get screwed over like her husband is now, or severe all ties and get on with your life. Your best bet is to never, ever, ever, ever have any contact with her ever, ever, ever, ever again.

    Ever.
     
  19. yobod

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    Here's what I think:

    1) You fell for this girl because you HAVEN'T seen her....it's like, the unknown possibilities are what's driving you
    2) You completely crossed the line from kindergarten crush into weird stalker when you created the fake myspace page
    3) She's incredibly lonely, and doesn't know what she wants, and is ready to buy into any guy who demonstrates kindness to her (probably because her ex was a tool)
    4) 3 is proven by the fact that she completely fell for your FAKE myspace guy....it shouldn't be that easy unless she's really mentally weak
    5) It's been 5 years and you haven't even MET her.....your feelings are driven by what you THINK she is, because you've created the perfect person. You've never been around her during her highs, and during her lows. Until you've done that, you can't possibly be in love.

    I think you need to take a looooong break from each other....take her off your myspace, don't contact her, and keep yourself busy with other things. Let her know what you're doing.....she might not like it, but that's the way it's gotta be, for both of you. Remember, she's got a daughter to raise as well, so you need to think about her as well. She needs her mom to be mentally healthy.
     
  20. DwangBoy

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    And that concludes this episode of Dr. Phil.
     

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