As a child whose parents almost got divorced and were in fact filing legal documents to effect such a proceeding before they reconciled, and as a friend of several people with divorced parents, I can tell you that ALL children get manipulated by the parent they're closest to. Unless the divorce is remarkable amicable, and the parents are impeccable models of good behavior, there will alway always be influence on some level on the child due to the parent's guilt over making their child go through this, so they seek to get the child on their side as a way of getting their approval to divorce the other parent.
my dad did this to us when my mom was divorcing him. he literally told us my mom hates us and manipulated us into making her feel guilty about it.
From this thread I've learned that as a parent I'm failing. I don't beat my children or treat them like crap. Anyone have any relationship advice for me and my wife? I'm sure that would be equally helpful.
From your reply, I see you have no idea what going through this feels like. FWIW, I bite my tongue on my messages for this very reason. But my ex has done this very thing to me in the past. What he should have done was file a petition for contempt. But I totally understand his frustration. Don't speak about what you don't know, please. Thanks.
i bet you have all your kids birthdays memorized, don't you. i swear, people like you should be taken out back into the shed and introduce your face to an axe. ugghhh!
We have a post on here suggesting we don't beat our kids enough, Fatty. I'm not calling you out, personally. I don't know your story. But to suggest that it is OK to beat your kids...or even to talk to them like this...well..it sucks. I understand it might be an honest response. And I also was quick to point out that it doesn't indict the man's character, generally. But it's regrettable, at the very least. I have absolutely been hurt by my son before...and I've said things I've regretted in that relationship and in others. That isn't ok. It's not something to pat someone on the back for.
From what I recall, your child is 6 or 7. Not exactly in that rebellious phase yet. Beating kids??? This thread is about a guy getting completely frustrated on the phone. And I'm fairly sure you know my story. I've posted about it on here on several occasions.
i don't know your story. i know you're divorced...i know you have at least one child...i know you were heartbroken. i assure you, i didn't have you in mind when i was thinking about this. and i'm very sorry for what you went through...truly. the beating kids thing was a post within this thread. if it was meant in sarcasm, then it's just sarcasm. wasn't how i read it right off the bat, though. there's just a lot of child-rearing advice in this thread that i disagree with. as with any other topic, you and others have a right to disagree with me, as well. again...i understand a response like this. i've had them myself. i don't think that makes it alright. but i'm certainly not condemning the man.
If a dude loses control of his mouth to the point of insulting his daughter like that, i dont care what the situation is, i lose all respect for him.
We don't the whole story behind Alec Baldwin's relationship with Kim and his daughter, we really can't place any judgment on this call... these people are from Hollywood, gotta keep that in mind.
There is no excuse to talk to an 11 year old like this -- none! I have a grown daughter -- that drove me nuts at times -- there were times a part of me wanted to slap some sense into her -- but I didn't and I never talked to her like that. To take your anger, hurt and frustration out on a child is inexcusable. I also understand that it can happen -- and if it does the adult in the situation should admit their mistakes (no excuses) to the child and ask for their forgiveness (and understand if it doesn't come right away).
Dude, kids nowadays have phones at age 8 on up...my parents gave my 10 year old one for xmas and at first, I was super pissed, just because I think its ridiculous for someone that age to have one...Over time, it has been usefull, but I'm not paying for it...My 8 year old wants one now as some kids in her 2nd grade class have one... just like everyone has said, some parents can and do manipulate their kids...Sad but true...
I've been told that a whoopin is acceptable when the child does something that endangers themselves or others.
