No way, dude. Because of my size, I've always looked older than I am. As a result, I've always dated older women, and my wife is 2 years older than me. Trust me, older women are where it's at (at least it was 20 years ago...been a loooong time since I've dated).
I've been waiting to hear back from Mary Beth since 2001. She stopped returning my emails ever since I offered Sprewell for Shareef Abdur-Rahim.
\ Yea veriily....testify! seriously....I alwasy ended up getting tired of the younger ones after I passed 30...their petty jealousies and mind games drove me nuts.... WARNING:Blatant generalization follows::::. older women are much more secure in themselves, and know how to keep a relationship going..and that isnt even taking into account the fact that most of them are much better in bed than the younger ones.. amfootball...... you are stacked, pretty and love sports? .....and you are having trouble getting dates? .... are you sure you arent hiding something about you?...I cant imagine any single red blooded male sports fan that wouldn't love to be with you...
I personally have no problems with couples with age gaps. My sister is marrying someone who's 16 years older than her in a couple of months. I've always liked this guy and I think that he's going to make her happy. The rest of my family and my sister's friends have also accepted and supported this marriage. I think that as long as there is a connection, it doesn't matter if there is an age difference.
If was single, I don't have an age limit. They have to be at least 18 and no older than 2 years older than myself, so that'd be anywhere from 18-38. Leaves me plenty of options if that was the case. As for me, I love younger women. My wife is seven years younger than I and looks every bit of it! Two, about to be three kids and she still looks good in a bikini.
In my current situation, the guy I'm interested in (and I'm pretty sure is interested in me), is a co-worker. I've made it as clear as I can that I like him...I can't just walk up to him and say it flat out. There are sooooooooo many HR issues there. I have a rule I follow closely...the guy must ask first, period. I understand guys don't like rejection, but believe me, women take rejection even harder.
Honestly though, that should be a clue right there. If you have a rule that a guy MUST approach you first, then you should be prepared that he might not, in which case you really have two choices: 1. Break your rule and approach him. 2. Ignore him. He'll either come around or he won't, but either way, you won't have to worry about it. If you are frustrated that someone won't come to you for a date but you refuse to go to them, you have a stalemate.
Dated a 20 year old when I was 33....Dated a 46 year old when I was 28... Its all about how two people get along. Not gonna presume to give Mr. Jeff advice, cause the couple times I talked to him he seemed much smarter than I. But, if I were just coming out of a relationship, and not looking for anything too terribly serious, I certainly wouldn't disqualify an otherwise promising girl on grounds of age.
Everything you've just said is very, very true. I've been doing choice #2 recently (I can't do #1...I just can't...I'll ask him out for the next 20 dates, but he's gotta ask first...he just must). I figure one day he'll get the courage...my guess is he will the day AFTER I decide he's not worth my time. Oh well... So, after all all this stuff, has the info in this thread actually been any help, or has it just confirmed your suspicions?
Interesting question. Honestly, I'm not sure. I am flattered when much younger, attractive women find me interesting/attractive enough to even want to flirt with me let alone date me. Always a nice confidence boost. But, while being in a series of very committed relationships for a long time gave me real insight into what stability is and how to manage relationships (and how NOT to manage them), I wasn't sure if that, along with age, gave me any real confidence with women. Now, I'm trying to find out and I don't know yet. I know that I probably was more forward in this situation than I would've been 10 years ago but still not confident enough to be agressive or anything like that. And, even knowing she was that young (I had a hunch even before she told me) didn't really cause me to stop flirting. I was never seriously considering anything beyond that just because I wasn't really ready for that in that situation (I was still playing a gig - doing a job - and trying to take care of those responsibilities), but it was interesting. I don't think I'll go looking for any really young women to date. I still think my cutoff is about 25. But, I probably won't run the other direction if someone is 21, attractive and interested.
When I was separated/divorced in 1990/91, I was 37/38. The women I dated steadily ranged from 26 to 40. The 26 YO (-12 YRS) was very exciting, but I had two kids and I don't think she was ready for that kind of life. The 40 YO (+2 YRS) had two kids of her own, but lived out of state. That was great for a while but petered out and we are still friendly. There was one other brief relationship with a woman who was 2 years younger than me. She didn't want anything serious for at least another 5 years. Then I met a woman who was about 7 years younger than me. We were a couple for 4 years but I decided that I didn't want to marry her. She was a fine woman and I broke her heart.... but she got over it because she later got married. I just couldn't see myself marrying her, but some lucky guy did. Six months later, I met the current Mrs. Giddyup and six months after than we were married. She is 10 years my junior and we have two beautiful girls: ages 3 and 5.
Well I guess I have never been known to "keep secrets", but I got to talking to amfootball by email and she sent me a pic to prove to me that her description of herself is accurate. She didn't want me to show the BBS, but damn, I just can't help myself. I'll let y'all, the BBS, be the judge: [size=1/4]Please don't hate me for this, amfootball![/size]
Why would I hate you for that? Make the hair a little darker and 86 that bright red lipstick and I'm cool with that. I definitely like the outfit....
86 the lipstick? What does "86" something mean? Oh, you aren't the only one that likes that outfit - that is what droxford and me are talking about (well maybe drox would rather see pleats instead of leather ).
86 came from prohibition. It was the address of a speakeasy. When the cops were arriving, they were told, in code, to "86" everything. The quote stuck.
If you can't manipulate the poor guy into asking you for a date, it might be time to hang that mini-pleated-shirt up. Don't even try the "I am not that kind of girl" line on me; I'm not buying.
If you think choice 2 is going to work, you might as well give up on his asking you out, entirely. Seriously, organize a happy hour for a few co-workers and make sure he knows about it. Then right before it occurs, ask him if he is going to attend. That will give you his answer right there, without either one of y'all feeling like you were let down, or embarrased. And if he says yes to going, he is interested in you. I guarantee it.
