I do agree with you on that. I just thought it was funny considering how many in here are talking about dating 20-year-olds when they are 40.
Never underestimate the size and the shallowness of the Male Ego. Something else to consider is that men either know the score or they don't. The men who know understand the man-woman dating dynamics and are likely not to go dateless for long. They also understand that finding the next ex-girlfriend is easy. This is a fish that may prove difficult to hook. The remaining, completely clueless guys probably make better dating partners. As an aside, I once was talking to this woman coworker at a bar (after hours in a group of coworkers). When it was said and done, I had a date but it wasn't like I had asking her out on my mind. I was manipulated, plain and simple. Child's play really.
amfootball You're not making much sense to me. First you say that you want a guy who doesn't play games. But then you say that you're interested in a guy and don't want to tell him - maybe you'll send him a valentine candy. You say, "If I don't like a guy, I flat out tell him I'm not interested in a relationship with him. I don't like having to tell a guy that, but it's better than having him pursue me for nothing." - So, you're willing to tell a guy that you're NOT interested, but not willing to tell a guy when you ARE interested?!?! Also, you say "It's hard to tell if a guy is interested...I see a guy look at my body, but that doesn't mean he wants to do anything more than look. How the heck are women supposed to know when the guy is interested so she can ask him?" ASK HIM! If he's staring at your body, say, "Hi." When he says "hi" back, ask him, "so are you staring at my body because I look like a complete freak, or because you like it?" Don't play games. Talk to him. You're an adult. If you want a man who doesn't play games, you shouldn't play them either. And if you are good-looking, have a good body, and like sports it should be super easy for you find a bazillion guys. Do this: 1) wear short skirts with pleats EVERYWHERE YOU GO. 2) if you're wanting to be with a sports fan, go hang out at sports bars with girlfriends. If you want to attract a brainiac, join a chess club. If you want to attract a squeaky clean guy, join a church group... you get the idea. Ask yourself, "what kind of guy do I want to attract". Then ask, "where are men like that giong to hang out/where will they be active". Then you just go to that place with your short skirt and be approachable. And, I'm building a separate thread about this now. -- droxford
drox - Women can't function without playing games. Even when they say they don't play games, and they can even focus energy on not playing games, they will play games. It's in their nature.
Any woman who plays games should only expect the same from the men they date. You must become what you desire. If you want a communicative man, you must be communicative. If you want a sexy man, you must be sexy. If you want a smart man, you must be smart. And if you want a man who doesn't play games... (The only exception to this is when a girl just wants to be in a relationship strictly for sex or money.) -- droxford
WOW, I wish I didn't open this thread in the library. That pick of the dude laying on the desk on the monitor (was it Gates? Didn't look long enough) really gave off a bad vibe to anyone around me.
My special lady is a little more than 6 years younger than me. But I think everyone looks my age. I'd probably say that my range would be around the +/- 10 years, but give or take a couple of years.
I suspect men and women have a different definition of what "playing games" means. My all time favorite woman game that I am guaranteed to lose is "read my mind".
i admit, i sometimes do the "read my mind" one. i feel like if they were paying attention at all in the last few months/years, they would be able to know what it is i want or am thinkign. but alas, that one is a cruel one we do.
Amofootball- It depends on what kind of a relationship you want. If you want something serious, then don't expect to be asked out a club. That isn't really a good place for something more serious than a hookup. Dance clubs are just bad for trying to find a boyfriend. Music clubs over a long period of time, might be ok. If you see someone at all the same places you can assume a similar taste in bands. That can be an easy ice breaker, and lead to other conversation. Dance clubs that specialize in partner dancing(swing, country, ballroom, etc.) might be slightly different. Other than that try and find a hobby that you like a lot, and get involved in that. Dont' look for other people in that hobby, but realize that someone more compatible will likely be there.
Jeff, Hit it high and Hit it low.... Age is not a factor if they are legal besides Jeff it's a known fact women like older guys and guys like younger girls. I praise you for the conquest you have made.....
Cruel just starts to describe it. After 11 years of marriage, I finally figured out the "oh nothing" game. For the ignorant, "oh nothing" has at least three different meanings : i) nothing-nothing which can be safely be ignored ii) good-nothing which is rare and calls for a celebration iii) bad-nothing which means all hope is lost and your ass is way beyond salvage
What's funny that if I weren't engaged, I'd be looking for a gal a few years older than me, probably around 32 or so. My fiancee's 22.
Yeah, that is pure evil. I'm to the point now that it isn't just that I CAN'T read minds, it is that I REFUSE on principle. It's too damn frustrating.
I agree with not finding someone while going out. When I go out, its to hang out with my friends and enjoy their company, not to try and smooth talk a woman that I dont know. Its not that I'm shy or scared of women because I'm not, its just not my cup of tea.
Girl: Read my mind You: I'm POSITIVE we BOTH have the SAME thing on OUR minds. Life is short, and people come and go. But we're both mature enough, and been around enough to know that when you run into that special someone, you hold on, and open your heart to that person. It's amazing...this connection we both have. I can look at you and know what you are thinking. That's rare. Whenever I look at you or think of you, I think of the stars. It's a bit corny, but I do. I'm a firm believer in fate, and that every person is in your life for a reason. BAM. You get some, and you get her off your back. It doesn't matter what she was really thinking, you start off on a dreamy rant, and she'll follow you. If you're married, and she asks you that, tell her that she can just add what she's thinking to the chores list.
Ok, I'm all into romance, seriously I like it. I like the connection that you can have with another person. I enjoy the euphoria of falling in love.........but I feel like turning in my man card just from reading that. The guy I share my office with says that it sounded like something from high school.
