LOL @ Ronny in this thread. I ****ing love that troll!!! :grin: And another classic Fatty board beat down. THANK YOU CLUTCH for letting this dork back in here. Too, too funny.
That's good stuff. I think I may have said the same to you in my first post... but... in different words. Be well. Did you ever answer my questions?
Just seems sort of hypocritical to me that her sister gave up her parents' faith, yet accepts her parents' money to go to a university based on her parents' faith.
It's a private university, not a seminary. One of my sister's went to St. Edwards, another got her PhD at Notre Dame. Neither are catholic. It would only be hypocritical if the university required you to be catholic to attend and you lied.
wow...sorry to hear about this but it sounds like you used some good advice...its so hard sometimes to question or do the opposite of what you've grown up with as you feel you're betraying the people you love...glad to see its working as communication is the key to happiness! good luck!!
If she doesn't believe she doesn't believe. It sounds like she is still going through the motions for her parents and if that is all she feels that seems like that is all that can be expected.
She got a huge scholarship for her art and most of her tuition is payed for. That, and she was still a Christian when she enrolled at St. Ed's. That school is much more liberal/secular than you'd think... swoly, i'll answer your questions later today
Oh wow, I came to the board to start this very thread. I'm sure there's nothing that hasn't been said already, and I'm going to read the replies to get a feel for this as well. Briefly speaking, before reading this whole thread, I recommend that you neither lie or go away. The most effective experience I've had in your position is to do things in phases, and time them perfectly. So basically: - When telling tell the truth to free yourself, do it one piece at a time, and with increasing size. - When doing this, make sure that you give enough time for a thought-out reaction between each block of info. - Even if you decide to move, remember that physical distance won't solve the problem. They have to actually feel the distance in your relationship and know exactly why it's happening. Otherwise it's wasted. Still shocked to find this thread. Good luck, I truly wish you the most of luck. In these cases, we always know WHAT to do, we are just unsure about why/how/when. Remember that your parents have endured a lot for you, and you kind of owe them, but 'owing them' shouldn't dominate your relationship.
Finals, I think ultimately you might just have to stand up for yourself and realize they will walk away from you for a while, but they will come back, they always do, they are your parents. DD
I know quite a few people who thought their parents would come back but were wrong.. I think its a possibility and its best to be realistic..
I don't consider myself an expert in anything, but I do have advanced education in child psychology. This is a classic case of rebellion. Your parents are extreme, so you've become just as extreme in the opposite direction. Am I right? I'm guessing if your parents are hardcore Christian, you now consider yourself to be atheist and laugh at the thought of Christianity. If your parents are republican, you are probably extreme liberal. Your parents eat unhealthy - you probably have tried the vegetarian/vegan extreme animal rights type diet. Your parents think drugs are bad? You smoke dope and drink. Your parents hate gay people? You probably are into gay rights and even fantasize about homosexuality. Your parents think you should have sex only when you are married? You probably are a bit promiscuousness and very liberal in your sexual viewpoints. Your parents believe in gender roles? You are probably now part of the feminist movement. So that leaves you torn. You know why? Because you aren't being yourself. You aren't being who you truly are. And it is IMPOSSIBLE to be happy and not be yourself. One can only do that for so long. So you are just depressed and torn apart by this. You need to really thing about who you are and be yourself. Your parents are extreme crazy on the right, you are acting extreme crazy on the left as part of your rebellion. Neither are YOU. I'm guessing the true finalsbound falls somewhere in between the two extremes. Find who you are and be that person - if that means letting your parents disown you, THEN LET THEM. Life is too short to go around walking on eggshells trying to please other people. Find yourself, and be yourself. And get off the dope. It's clouding your reality. Seriously.
If that were the case, she'd be happy with who she is right now and wouldn't have started the thread. She's unhappy because she isn't able to be herself. She'll grow out of this extreme leftist stage and find her true self eventually. She'll never be extreme right like her parents, but she won't be this crazed feminist liberal vegan forever (if she wants to be happy again). That is fact.
Nah. Guilt is what consumes her. Her parents are master manipulators. Love is knowing what buttons to push.
Your inference that conservative religious persons are therefore uneducated and unable to use reasoning makes you no better than the behavior that started this thread. Respect is, in fact, a two way street.
