FB - seriously? I hardly know you and yet your complete 180 on beliefs and values has been enough to offend me. I know you don't get it yet, but the smarminess of this board in the D&D has rubbed off on you, and I promise that in 10 years you will regret a lot of this newfound "enlightenment" you got in the past two years. Listen now, or listen later. EDIT: So much bad advice through this entire thread. FAR too many people trying to support you regardless of how outrageous your recent decisions have been. If this website is your new family, embrace the new support group. If you want actual advice on how to deal with your actual real life family, email me. You know I won't pull any punches. And I mean that sincerely. I've actually seen this entire thing on here.
Lol. She's estranged from her parents do to advice such as yours, Rachel Maddow. Perhaps it's time for a different perspective.
It's really not an act. fatty doesn't get how completely clueless and offensive he is. The last thing anyone needs is life advice from an alcoholic with a peter pan complex.
My beliefs make me offensive? I don't think so, bro. And this entire thread is going right into the shi**er. You're the reason she's in this sitch.
I agree with Fatty here. There's a lot of people on this board trying to say what they think you want to hear. Trying to "be nice" and offer you tips on "taking the easy way out" and just moving a long way away.... My crude view on this is that it sounds like FB is going through an awkward time in her life, sees her parents as "out of touch", does a 180 on her religion and politics, likely in an attempt to rebel from her "out of touch" parents, and now is willing/wanting to have less of a relationship with her very own parents. A lot of huge decisions in there, and a lot of bad ones in my opinion. Fatty may have a bad reputation on this board, but I guarantee given his life experiences he's seen a ton of people go through this same metamorphosis, so I'd probably suggest listening to him in this case, for his perspective if nothing else.
This thread is not about her beliefs Fatty... it's about her relationship with her parents. Keep your moral and religious "superiority" the F out of this thread.
puts things in perspective, maybe fb can clarify if the parents had a direct or implied input on which college the sister went to.
What you and FFB are refering to is her not being sure of who she is and destroying her relationship with her parents over what could be a phase....and that could happen with some people, but i never got the feeling that this was a phase for her. Sounds like she's always had a good grasp of who she wanted to be and what to believe in, or at least for a very long time, but was struggling with going that route or making her parents happy. The times she changed her mind were simply to try to patch things up with them. At 24 she's at the point where she starts to finalize her beliefs and wants to grow up, be her own person. I think this is the age most start to know their identity and really want to start strengthening it.
Ah, the good ol' peanut gallery from D&D rears up here, yet again. Here's two options: She came here to get a bunch of "atta boy's" from the liberal crowd, or... She came here asking for advice on how to understand her parent's perspective. She knows she can talk to me off the board if she wants actual advice. The rest of you are truly pathetic. Do any of you still talk to your folks anymore?
Life is a marathon not a sprint. There's a huge amount of truth in the warning to think 10 years down the road. Don't burn any bridges that aren't necessary. I think you can have an honest talk with your parents about your dissatisfaction without burning any bridges... where you light the match.
You think about your feelings too much. Stop eating, hit the gym and be more lively around men. Stop thinking about religion and society's perception of you, free yourself from those shackles. All these issues are insignificant in the long run. Basically this has nothing to do with your parents, it's about you lacking the juice to live life the way you want to because of a. identity issues b. lack of self belief c. self image issues If you fix c, b and a will fall into place.
