Execute this plan good sir. There's a strong likelihood that once you create distance and date other females or party more, find hobbies, etc she will linger with texts like "Been thinking about you" or some crap like this. It's just a spider web, she has zero intentions of hooking up, just likes you to boost her ego. Find another girl. Don't look back. In a year you will love yourself for this decision.
Dude, what's the point of pining for someone that doesn't want you back?? Go out, get a life of your own, and stop relying on her for your female companionship. She says she values you as a friend because she doesn't have that many.....well, what about YOU? You've got friends, right?? And you've got a social life outside of her, right? Live your life, be cool with her, but stop being THAT guy. The more you ask and plea, the less attractive you are to her, plain and simple. Right now, you're her big, cuddly, body pillow....something she feels safe with. One of two things needs to happen: 1) You need to move on from your feelings with her while still maintaining your friendship with her. Do not let her know what you've decided......start dating other girls and she will get the picture. or 2) If 1. is not possible, and you have to remove her from your life in order to move on, then so be it. She cut you out when she had a boyfriend....you can certainly do the same. This is about YOU. If and when you feel like you've sufficiently moved on from her, you can bring her back, but not before then. No phone calls, no concerts, no hanging out....nothing. There is absolutely no reason for you to latch onto someone who isn't attracted to you, or doesn't want to be with you. It's counter-productive, and just flat-out a bad look. It effects ALL aspects of your life (work, school, health, sports, etc) when you don't feel wanted. Get out there and find someone who DOES want you.
Just tell her you can't hang out with her anymore and be that shoulder to lean on that she expects you to be because that's unfair to you'd feelings especially if she's going to pull the "we should stop hanging out its not fair to my boyfriend" crap. In a way this may force her to admit any feelings towards you but is afraid that'll ruin the relationship or both of you will move on. Semi win-win?
I know its ****ty, but rape her. Get her drunk enough and force the situation for her to make a mistake.
Ditto with everyone else telling you to run away. But another alternate is maybe making her your **** buddy? That way the time you invest in her is justified. Of course, if you really have VERY strong feelings for her, then maybe you shouldn't go with this route.
Relax, he said he knows it's ****ty. If you use "I know it's ****ty..." as a preface, you can pretty much say anything.
No question. Distance yourself. I've been where you are. All you are doing is delaying finding the one you're supposed to be with. You might even be missing her altogether while pining away for this one. One last comment. The only possible way this girl might come to you is if she sees what she lost with you out of the picture and the only way THATS gonna happen is if you put time and distance between you two. Time wounds all heals. Good luck.
Seriously! Honestly, if you are driving to Austin just to see her and not getting any action, then you are on the short end of the stick. You know she's probably been horny because she doesn't have a boyfriend anymore. Ahh, of course. <iframe width="560" height="315" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/Af-Id_fuXFA" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>
Cut her out from your life kid...if she wants you for anything more than a friendship/buddy, she will let you know....other than that find new friends, and go talk to more chicks...its important for you to realize that in the end, you really are just a stepping stone for her to move from one guy to the next...and if you have any self respect/dignity left, you would tell her nicely that you really dont want much to do with her any more...If anything, you have described a woman that has very low self confidence, and has you to to prop her self when she is down...
