Seems to me that this situation will just escalate after she finds out you've been cheating with your ex. If she's willing to stalk and do some pretty outrageous things when she's drunk, I shutter to imagine to think what she'll do after she finds out about this. Best to act maturely and constructively assist her in some kind of recovery program. Be caring and most importantly graceful in your actions. Find out why she drinks and help her resolve her problems. If your relationship with her becomes a series of revenges, you'll lose her and very bitterly.
The only piece of advice I can offer is please by the love of God don't get her pregnant, neither of you need to reproduce....
Al, go get a job that allows you to have more control of your life. Your chick needs AA and you need to hit the road. Your description of that relationship is incredibly negative for both parties involved. Grow a pair and leave her.
I was just thinking about the quote you mentioned. How in the world did you find out all that? But regardless..., these quotes... and... Are you serious!?? She "tricked" you into moving to Houston by promising that she'd pay your bills? What the heck does that even mean?
Agreed. They're both morons. Please, for the love of G-d, use protection. The last thing this world needs is a combination of DNA like this. An alcoholic, p***y whipped, dips*** who actually moved from Houston to Dallas.
Sounds like you both need counseling, and she needs to seek rehab. That's if you really want to be with her. Otherwise, you need to get out.
It's a shame that this relationship has gotten to this point. For starters, Al, you need to have what we call "deal breakers". One "deal breaker" for most people is someone who can't control their drinking. You are not married to her, so at least you have that going for you. You should have told her a long time ago, that if there was to be a relationship between the 2 of you that there are some things that would have to go bye-bye. Yet you were either too spineless or too mesmerized to say this and what happens? You get punched in the face and all kinds of other hilarities. Then you tell us that you have to put up with this garbage because she tricked you into moving and quitting your job?? Grow a pair (as others have said), make yourself more self-sufficient where you don't have to rely on some crazy ass chick to get you through life, and set some higher standards after you kick her to the curb. And like others said, please don't get her pregnant. You think your life and hers are trainwrecks now, just wait when you add a baby to the mix. That little thing doesn't deserve to start life off with 2 people who aren't ready to take care of it.
Damn!! I can't belive it took me this long to figure out his real motive. Stop drinking = loose a few #'s!!
Yep. He has zero self-respect. The way I see it, Mr. Al is so concerned about his abusive girlfriend's drinking problem when in fact he should be more concerned about his own insecurity issues and the fact that his gonads are nonexistent. You hear stories about women who stay in abusive relationships because of codependency issues all the time -- it's strange to see a man being the victim. "She pays all my bills." Are you even serious dude? So what if you have to move to a smaller apartment and can't afford HBO anymore for the time being? Get your life in order and kick that cancer out of your life.
