This is what I was trying to get at. In certain situations, if the parents are miserable with one another, then divorce is the proper thing to do. Swoly would call that "giving up". But, in reality it is called being proactive and having the balls to make a change for the better.
Nothing is wrong with divorce inherently. Sometimes it is the right choice to make. The problem with American married individuals is the level of commitment and responsibility towards family and one another when becoming a couple. It not only requires understanding marriage, relationships, and your spouse, but yourself. I am not Indian but am often impressed with their level of commitment and attitude towards marriage. People scoff at arranged marriages in the US, but they have the mentality that regardless of who they end up with, they will make things work and develop love, putting strong effort towards understanding one another. If I'm not mistaken, one of the lowest divorce rates in the world. How many people do you know in the US that get married so quickly knowing each other on a superficial level and without firstly trying to understand what a lifetime relationship entails? Too many and too many end up broken within a few years.
or one could call it, NOT have the courage to work it out, or the honor to keep a promise. Swoly is right. Divorce= giving up. It's not a pretty term......but don't try to tell me this spade is a club.
Divorce = the ability to realize you made a mistake and married the wrong person. We are humans and we all make mistakes.
Huzah! for parents. My parents rock and I only hope I can raise my kids half as well as they did for me. There 40th anniversary was a few days ago and they never had a honeymoon so my wife and I are sending them to Hawaii for a couple weeks to say "thanks".
Vinsanity, why not stop yourself from making a mistake and MAKING KIDs, then? "We are all humans and make mistakes" will be your self-fulfilling prophecy. Why not marry if you always have your sweet "divorce" ticket to fall back on if it "doesn't work"? It is pitiful how society now uses whatever lame excuse to say "Oh, Well." It's sad, really. No kids, no problem, right? I am grateful for my parents and I thank them for raising me well.
Say what you will, and I'm not trying to throw this into the poop forum, but I think that there should be a penalty for divorce. It might make people think before doing so, as well as the end result. Divorces are just too simple these days, with thw woman getting the lion-share of it's consequences. After mine, I know damn well I ain't doing it anytime soon.
SwD, I really wish you could start looking at the whole picture. There could be so many scenarios that could lead to divorce. I DONT think it’s the right thing to do and thank God I have never been there but sometimes I can understand why some people have to get a divorce. It’s unfortunate that the divorce rate is so high and continues rise. I know plenty of good people that came from single parent homes. When I hear idiots say that divorcing is easy or it’s the easy way out, it makes me sick. I just know that sometimes, depending on the situation, it is justified. Go ahead Mr. Marriage Counselor.....
