It'd be hard to say without seeing, but it sounds like she may have backtracked after realizing that what she said sounded like she was stereotyping you - or, maybe she was stereotyping you. I have type 1 diabetes, which means I have to buy syringes. I also have a long curly beard and long hippy hair. Half the time when I go to Walgreen's to get a box of syringes I get interrogated - and two times (I think) I've heard the same 'some people' line. It doesn't bother me at all because I could choose to look normal, but I always found it funny that the pharmacists felt the need to apologize for their stereotyping. One time I was refused outright and that bothered me because I was out of syringes. Of course, I'm stuck in College Station right now and I probably look like I stepped straight out of a drug deal scene in Miami Vice to the average local. But that might just be the sweet t-shirt/sport jacket combo I got going. I don't know if you overreacted or not, and I don't really know how I'd react in a similar circumstance because I've never been black. Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go lay in the tanning bed for a few hours.
There's psychological evidence that the exception proves the rule in a stereotype more than breaking it. IMO, bringing up that card has lost all of its intended meaning to the user.
It's so typical of "some people" to say that I advocate being rude to people based on race. You just love to think that don't you. All I ever stated is that as a waiter it is understandable to be less enthusiastic to wait on certain groups of people than others based on their tipping practices as a whole. Jesus?
what the hell??? i have to say that i agree with this! and i just saw a couple pigs fly by! and i just went ice skating with satan! hold me ma, im scared!
again, the action i am referring to is his emotional reaction to the waitress (his assumption that she is being racist is a reaction) and the fact that he started a thread about it (is that not an action?). also, complaining to the manager is an 'act'.
Doing this brings you down to the level of the person treating you wrong. Your good is overcome by the other person's evil. Try returning good for evil. Doing this sometimes turns the other person around. Try it sometimes. I'm no pacifist and I'm not saying shine the shoes of a person who just kicked you, but kicking them back just as hard only perpetuates the problem and makes it worse. Sometimes water is the best antidote to fire.
Well she went on to say that "some people" don't know ahead of time or something to that affect. So she used some factor in determining that perhaps AB would fit into the "some people" category. Like I said, without being there and perhaps even if I was there there wouldn't be any way to prove it.
Would it have been better in your opinion if she had said..."not everyone realizes the price has gone up"...
I can understand how "some people" can be offensive to some, but honestly, if I heard "some people", my reaction would've been to think maybe "some people" gave her a hard time after getting their bill and raising hell over $2.00. To me those people would be "some people", too. And trust me, it wouldn't have anything to do with being black, white, or eskimo. So what would I have said next? I would've asked "are people giving you a hard time over that price change?" Why not ask the girl what's up? Maybe she's having a rough day/week/month because of it. I can easily see how when they argue with her to get a discount back to $4.99, her tip may also be affected. Hell, they may leave her squat. Instead we automatically gravitate towards the most diabolic angle - "was she being racist?"
Fair enough. Assume you are the mother, father, friend of a person you just treated like crap. Do you suppose they'll hate you now for treating that person like crap? Hmmm... I'm guessing yes. Congrats. Perpetuate the anger.
Overreaction? This is an overreaction... <object width="425" height="350"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/M5JCN4dulvU"></param><param name="wmode" value="transparent"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/M5JCN4dulvU" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" wmode="transparent" width="425" height="350"></embed></object> "Oh, nooo!" "She hit her right in the eye." Whaa?
Yes, yes, I know. I can use wikipedia too. Just simply call them the Yupik. By using the term "eskimo" you risk offending the multitudes of other northern aboriginals. I taught at a native school for a while and know that many people there would be offended by "eskimo" which translates directly to "eaters of raw flesh."
Wikipedia? Nah - I chat with a Canadian who teaches in Japan who taught me that. And there's debate on the "eaters of raw [flesh]" angle, too. But I'll leave that to the Inuit/Eskimo/Yupik offended thread.
Soooooooooo......Inuit huh? What am I to call all those Eskimo Pies sitting in my freezer? "Inuit Pie" just doesn't flow.
