RM95 - When I come up to Dallas in July, we are going to kick it at a few singles bars and get housed - end of story.
Happy Anniversary, Max. As far as the pre-nup business -- Mr. JB and I had one. When we got married in 1995, I had decent-sized trust fund, so I asked him to sign a pre-nup (mainly because my father pushed me to do it). I found that, instead of making things easier, it served as almost a psychological barrier to intimacy, because it created an artificial dividing line between "mine" and "his." When, in reality, marriage is supposed to be about "ours." So, to make a long story short, it's seven years later, we've long since discarded the pre-nup, we completely share the finances and we're much happier. Edited because I'm an idiot who can't remember what year I got married.
Exactly. Im not going to waste time going out to look for "the one". Im just going to live my life for me right now..... She will come along eventually..... if ever
See, this just doesn't work for me. I don't mind working all day, cutting the grass, taking out trash, killing stuff, etc.. But if I'm going to do all that, my wife better damned well clean the house and do the dishes. Especially if she doesn't work! That was one of the biggest issues w. my and my ex, she's freakin' lazy! It's one of those things you can never know until you live with someone.
wow..what a great story!!! thanks for telling us that! that's so cool. that is the very essence of marriage. you guys would be amazing parents...and the world would be blessed with your children!! no kidding! two of the nicest people i know.
that's really not the kind of work i meant...but if that's what you mean...you're right...you don't need to get married! stay far far far away from marriage!
Ohhhh... A cc.net singles night out. The women of Houston are in for some trouble! How are you getting used to Houston, btw?
I wish I was still there. The company that I work for had an opening back here in Austin that I couldnt refuse $$$ wise so I moved back. I still try and make it out to H-town once or twice a month.
Jumping into this thread late, but I had to put my two cents in: Marriage has been the easiest thing in the world to me. I just passed 16 years of being married, and do not regret a single minute. If you are lucky enough to find the right girl, you'll understand what I mean. I could go on and on, but the married ones know what I mean. Buck, that phone call incident reminded me of this page: www.psychoexgirlfriend.com . Check out the voicemail link to the left.
Being single isn't that bad. I like to keep to myself. Being single while the girl you love tells you "Why can't I love you now" and not explaining what the **** she means isn't all that fun though.
I think too many guys look for women to "complete" them in some way. I am in my 16th year as well and everyday is an adventure. Some good and some bad but we are individuals who hang out together, raise kids together and laugh a lot together. "Til death do us part" will drive you crazy! "One day at a time" is THE philosophy(IMHO).
Very interesting perspectives here. I am on my second marriage== 7th anniversary in the Fall. My first marriage at age 22 lasted almost 14 years-- 7 without children and 7 with children. In between I had 6 years of bachelorhood and part-time single fatherhood. After the honeymoon of singleness wore off, it was the most difficult period of my life. I have never felt so all alone. I'd practically never been single and trying it at 37 for the first time was challenging and very disconcerting. Finally I met a nice girl, we dated for about four years. Then I was ready to get married again and start a second family. I broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years because it dawned on me that I didn't want to marry her. She was The Long Rebound. I started dating again and about 8 months later, I met a woman who became my wife just 6 months later. Now we have two precious girls-- ages 1 1/2 and 3 1/2. My older two are 19 and 17 and we all spent Father's Day together. When you have a family that family becomes your identity. Then it is suddenly gone. I don't wish it on anyone.
I couldn't agree with you more Drewdog. I've sworn off serious relationships for 3 years now and I've never been happier. FB's are a religion to me. I love the single life too much to ever give it up. I hate kids and if I ever have one it will be the end of my life. Not that I haven't had my share of close calls in the past. YIKES.
"f" buddy no relationship, no emotions, no mess. both partners go in with only one expectation as you can tell, i've been burned before, which has warped my value system beyond repair.
Ahhhh. Of course. I wish I had one of those.... Coupled with my parents divorce at a late age (17) and my terrible relationship history, Im done with that **** for a while. That is unless Brooke Burke gives me a call.
