and there is truth there too...my wife was much more likely to say, "ok...let's get the texans tickets," when i told her about going to oiler games with my dad... not so much a strawman...just another bullet in the gun.
Ahhhh... I'm just not as devious as you guys. But that's just the thing. Why the hell do I need to lie about anything? I know plenty of friends who do that. Whenever we go out or they want to buy something, they have to make up some damned excuse to the wife.
i'm not as logical as many on these boards...and much less likely to be concerned with such things...but only in rare circumstances would i recommend a prenuptial agreement. if you're going into the marriage already devising how you'll split up property when you divorce, there's a problem. that's just my two cents. there are situations where it makes sense from an estate planning standpoint when people are getting married for a second time and have kids from previous marriages...but for a 27 year old person getting married for the first time...what do you need a prenup for?? you don't have anything going in, for the most part. as for divorce settlements...it varies...depends on the circumstances. depends on if there are children or not.
Aha! I've noticed that kids would be enjoyable until about the age of 12. Then they start copping attitude and getting in trouble. Then they leave at 18, and it's over. Btw, what parking lot do you guys park in for Texans games?
that just sucks...i don't have to do that...my wife hangs out with her friends..i hang out with mine. marriage..like anything else...is what you make it. perception and how you filter reality becomes your reality. if you go in assuming the worst, guess what? it's gonna suck. i was in boston by myself this past weekend...i kept thinking the whole time how much more fun it would be if my wife and son were with me. if my son were with me at fenway...if my wife was with me to eat seafood, something we both love...i've been married 6 years as of this coming saturday. there are good days and bad days...as in any life...but on the whole, there's no way in the world i would trade it. no way in the world.
MM, You're bringing my avg daily post count to an all time high today. If I were to get married, I hope that I'm sensible and calm enough to make her signa prenup. I don't have much, but I have a house and a truck. I'm still paying out the ass for my four yr relationship! I'm not going to get stung twice.
orange lot well...has that been your experience with your father? it's not mine. my father and i see each other a lot...meet for lunch often...he takes me and my son to astros games...he went with me to the texans/cowboys game (great memory!)...i'm sure i pissed him off from time to time...but who doesn't? i don't think he'd trade our relationship away simply because i pissed him off when i was a teenager.
your house and truck are separate property..they're coming into the marriage...they're not part of the family estate that's divisible by a family court.
Yes unless you sell the property and then put the funds in a joint account, comingling the assets. Then you could be screwed. The lesson to be learned is keep all your separate property separate at all times. When you sell separate property items, make sure you don't put anything in a joint account unless you keep impeccable records - even then, don't do it. All income derived from separate property is community property during the marriage.
I've come to the realization, and it sucks not to be part of the 'norm' and all, but marriage just isn't for everyone. You sound like a cool guy and great father MM, and I'm glad your marriage rocks. Congrats on the 6yr anniversary btw. You obviously belong to the group that marriage works out for. Maybe I'm like Drewdog, and just going through a selfish phase. Either way, I'm single now, loving life, and can't see it any other way! I'm in the Yellow Lot or I would've invited you over for a beer and sausage one weekend.
or you could just be married...the lesson to be learned is to not enter marriage lightly. to commit to your marriage. to recognize that means that marriage isn't always 50/50..sometimes it's 90/10, and you'll feel like you're giving the 90. to mean it when you say, "till death do us part" before all of your family, your friends and your Creator. if you don't want those things...or if it sounds like too much...then don't do it to begin with.
RIET, I know you're married, I think you mentioned being married to a redhead. Anyway, do you know all these because you're married?
thanks... if you're happy where you're at...no need to change! marriage isn't for everyone...and it doesn't have to be. don't let anyone make you feel that way. given that approach, i think you'll damn-well know it if you meet a girl worth marrying!
