I'm pretty sure his question lies in whether to talk to her directly or go to the parents. I know I wouldn't be comfortable tackling this problem.
Hey, as far as why make the post. Because I am alone here in Colorado. My family is 26 strong at my mom's house right. I miss them, and find it hard to address this with them. Can't I post it instead. Plus, I'm really hoping for the women advice here...like meggoleggo. Hey, did I ever thank you for setting me up with Deacon Ed. After a year and a half, I finally finished my adult confirmation last May at the new Houston Cathedral with the Cardinal. I largely did that for my goddaughter, although learned in the end it was for me. So yes, I will tell this to my priest soon.
I think he's late 30's to early 40's. Dude. HeyP: you gotta tell her parents. If she's being silly, it's one thing. But if you're worried enough to ask advice, I'd say you have to tell her folks. Can't play around with this kind of stuff.
In that case, tell the parents. your reply sms along the lines of "is it you? or did someone get your phone" thats quite suggestive it should have been "this is not a joke, its a serious matter and I have spoken to your parents about it" - all grounds covered if anything does happen
I dont think there's a difference if a 15 year old or 50 year old calls you out the blue with "I'm in jail, bail me out". They both put you on the spot with an uncomfortable situation. Me, I'd respond back with something to dull the crush, a 1 time attempt to squash it before involving others. And depending how she responds back THEN tell the parents.
You should tell her parents, but you should also request that they not confront her on it at this time. Tell them you will try to sort out the situation first. If however, you continue to get texts like the first one, you should let the parents know again and let them intervene.
I'm pretty surprised by the number of people here who think he should be doing anything but going to the parents. Regardless of what he does, whether he talks to her or goes to the parents, the kid will be hurt as a result. You do not want to risk her going to the parents herself and potentially presenting a distorted version of the circumstance and one which implicates him as being suggestive of anything. Nip it in the bud. She will be hurt regardless. It's better to cover your own tracks lest something be misconstrued.
Youre comparing apples and oranges Shroop His 15 yr old niece texted him "I have undeniable feelings for you." Thats not even close to being the same as bailing someone out of jail. I'm responding as a parent, a clutchfan member, but most importantly...an adult.
On the lighter side just text back to her saying you are gay.....with that powder blue hat everyone thinks that anyway. DD
