Marriage is a voluntary arrangement anyway, if you are committed to each other, you don't need the government to have a certificate that says you are married. It is a waste of time..... Just be happy with or without the committment. DD
From a pure logistics point of view, marriage offers a contract and specific courts to deal with the joining and seperation of two people. If two people cohabitate for extended periods of time and mix their money and property, it is often extremely messy to split it up due to no court action being able to split up the property.
I think that at 40 (although I look younger), I am at an age where I should start thinking about it, even as a guy...not yet totally too late, but shouldn't wait 10 more years...I think.
Well for me, my priorities have changed. Granted I came out of a marriage where my partner tried to control everything I did (even up to who and how I talked on the phone), so like finals said - you need to find someone who loves you but still gives you the independence you need. I feel like (and I am being a little overdramatic here) that I was locked up for 5 years and now I am free. There is too much stuff I enjoy doing and for the most part, it does not require the companionship of a woman. Doesn't mean I am interested in women; however, I am content being by myself. If I do meet someone, they will have to be content with who I am and vice versa and there won't be changing anybody into something they are not. That right there is why I am enjoying my life now.
I qualify for this thread, but I sense there's a follow up one coming for which my experience would be more applicable.
Can I answer, even though I'm a unmarried female over 30? okay I will I spent my mid to late 20's doing my thing, traveling, playing etc, doing things that I couldn't do married so I didn't want to be tied down When I hit 30 I went back to school and since I changed my lifestyle I haven't found anyone that I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it's not that I don't want to get married. If I were in that kind of relationship I would like to have kids fairly soon at the very least and for me that sort of goes hand in hand with being married.
I'm not married and will turn 30 in a few months. I do a lot of traveling now so relationships doesn't seem to be an option. Most of my high school buds are married and some with kids, so it's been affecting me lately. I do have that match.com thread under subscribers though...
Marriage can't be good if it is 'super hard work'. Perhaps there is some work involved the first year or so in understanding responsibilities, boundaries and expectations, but, beyond that, things should fall into place without much effort. I think a critical key to a happy marriage is to know when to let an argument go. I also think it is important to receive pre-marriage counseling.
I read a stat somewhere that there are more single people between the ages of 25-35 than ever before. So there isn't really a big hurry. I'll marry someone IF I am really crazy about them. I don't think I'll marry a girl just because "it's time to get married." But maybe in a few years I'll change my mind.
I'm horrible with women. It is what it is, doesn't bother me much aside from my mom with the wanting grandchildren stuff.
LOL I need a few more years for that... I need to wait til I turn 40 before I can call myself a cougar
I'm 19 and married, shame on you get your act together son. What about your women's happiness? You think she's content with a relationship like that and she may be single in her 40s?
