[work advice] Facing bullying, should I stay at my current job?

Lol seriously, this is terrible and straight out an ABC sitcom

 

Just STFU!

 

Are you a virgin?

 

I think it was wise to leave that job. Good luck going forward, but be mindful to not grow dependent on the antidepressants/sleeping pills.

 

Like Fresh of the Boat.

 

Well other than rock extraction tips, you could learn from him how to deal with with the culture.

There may be some elder quarrymen he were pretty boys just like you, or maybe they knew someone similar and helped guide them.

 

This thread. Only in America.

 

Op be trollin hard

Great work OP

 

I am going to be blunt here... You seem very immature and you have what I guess is extreme social anxiety. I am sure you are a nice guy and didn't deserve any form of bullying. Honestly the fact that you wrote out a paragraph this long and brought up stuff from high school shows you have social issues. I think it was a smart decision to see a counselor and get some outside perspective and help. The counseling, maturity, life experience and maybe some medication will help you through this.

Are sure these guys aren't just messing around and you are taking it the wrong way? Some of the things these bullies are doing are things that my friends and I did to each other back in high school. It may be a bit of persecution complex I don't know but I don't want to say they are not bullying you because I wasn't there.

Best of luck.

 

Lol atw, getting laid is the ultimate solution huh. I can't disagree.

 

Good luck op.

 

This made me cringe. Get a hold of yourself.

You seem to have been coddled by your parents.

 

OP. Please answer this question. How OLD are you?

Good decision to see a doctor. Talk with him about your issues. You must realise that you are not a special case here. A lot of people suffer from job bullying, lack of confidence etc.
This place is not a good place to get advice from though. It's a sports forum.
I think you take the responses/jokes/criticisms here too serious, same as you did in your work.

You think that people care too much about appearance. Because you have low self esteem and judge yourself you assume others judge you as well. This is very evident by many things you have said already.
You fail to realise that most here dont' give a damn if you are fat or prettyboy or whatever lol And it is the same in your work. People don't care if you are fat or have a small head or look like a korean pop star.

I still think that some of the things the other guy told you are racistic and should by no means be tolerated even as jokes. You should set some boundaries and make clear what jokes you can take and what you can't from people esp you don't know well and aren't your friends.

Now if you indeed quit your job, try to keep working on yourself and in the new job that you will start, make a new beginning.
It will help you with your anxiety I think if you finally realise this : It's NOT the end of the world if you can't get along with someone. It's NOT the end of the world if someone doesn't like you. It's NOT the end of the world if you can't continue in this job.
Life is long and it's not a race. Take some lessons from this experience and try to grow and mature as a person forward. You can come out of this a winner.

 

Geez. How did I miss this thread for so long.

First of all. Working in a small company isn't for everyone. Working around all male engineers isn't for everyone. Working in a small company around all male engineers certainly isn't for everyone.

In my job role, and in what I do for a living, mapping out Competencies of different job roles to personality characteristics is something I do on a daily basis. The Engineering group sticks out like sore thumb.

Smaller companies just aren't going to have the support of a strong HR department with full closed door policies. Even in my company, a company that essentially supports other organizations HR and talent development, we honestly lack a strong HR support system because of sheer size, and we have over 200 employees. Likely in a company like the one you described, likely the person or persons who are part of the issue would be the person you would go to in order to report something like this. That's always going to be an issue for situations like this, and representing individuals like yourself.

Normally, with work issues, quitting the job isn't the answer, but in a case like this, it might be that you would feel more comfortable in a larger corporate environment where you have more structure in place, and you could have more options for friends in the workplace to match your personality with.

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Others here have given you the "toughen up" words of err encouragement I guess. Yes it does sound like growth and thickening your skin so to speak will do wonders for you in the your professional career. That's putting it lightly. But one thing I would say is it sounds like you need to get your professional seasoning with a larger company where you can grow a little bit more as a professional, and not stick out so much in a smaller company where you are going to NOT be supported in the case of bullying or aggressive management styles.

 

This thread totally backfired on OP. Wow.

 

yall are harsh when hes

1. Naive and afraid
2. Cocky and upfront
3. Apologetic, vulnerable and depressed

 

you call that bullying?

 

you call these bagels?