i'm the reverse. she bought a house, i moved in 2 years later. she benefits by having extra hands to do manly work, repairs, move heavy stuff, kill bugs, landscaping, etc... and i also pay her rent and cover most restaurants. she pays for house improvements and property taxes. i make significantly more, but it feels like we split 50-50 in the end. you should charge her a nominal rent fee, since you're basically losing the ability to rent the other half out to another person for added income. if not that, she should pay utilities, groceries, furniture, or restaurants. if a girl wants you to take care of her every living expense, prior to marrying you or being in a long-term relationship (multiple years), that is a girl who you probably may not want to be involved with. don't let yourself get used, but don't tell her outright she's using you. find a way to "ask for her help" in covering living expenses, and be firm and consistent.
Disagree. With a wife it should be split somehow, some way if she is working. If she is not then you shoulda married a working woman. One of my friends has a wife who strictly told him "my money is my money is not going for bills". this is a guy who works 12 hours a day and doesnt make a whole lot as it is. I dont condone hitting women but if there ever was a good time for one to deserve a slap in the face, that was the time. btw they are married with two kids. also, they are now seperated.
If she isn't going to pay the actual rent, she better be paying for groceries and utilities. There needs to be some kind of offset. Women demanded equal rights. Better give it to them in the form of bills. I think that is a bad step in a relationship if you're not both working and providing for each other-this is assuming you're a young couple.
Currently in the process of closing on a house. Based on our calculations my fiance will be paying about 35% of mortgage/bills. Unless your girlfriend/wife doesn't have any income it's selfish of them not to offer to pay something. I didn't ask her to help pay she just offered and I'm glad she did. Too many women take advantage of their men (I have a few buddies that are just cash registers for their lazy women).
I legally got in trouble with the law regarding this subject, luckily I came out of it with only a slap in the hand (took marital classes) considering how the law works. I learned is that we don't live in the "stone or bible ages anymore" being generous paying for almost everything can sooner or later drive a man crazy, which can lead to argument and fights, if you let it get to that point you lost! The law sides with women almost all the time because they are "weaker", long story short I ended up taking classes and one of the things that I was tought is that couples should split the expenses in HALF, a man pulling all the weight is a thing of the past...think about it, the law doesn't care about macho mans if you ever divorce your wife in the future it will be 50/50 plus child support if you have any kids, so think about it make her pull some of her weigh too it's fair and good for the relationship, communication at all times is key, you have to put it in a way as if your building your dreams together.
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No, I believe that you should pay the entire rent because you are the man. There are benefits to paying the entire rent as well, your name is on the lease so if you break up she leaves. Further, it is your job as a male to provide. If you are paying the bills it is far easier to expect her to cook and clean, etc, based on the fact you are doing what you are supposed to.
It is simple..... If you are not going to pay for the rent, pay any of the bills, or financially provide, then you are going to be expected cook and clean the house or do something ..... My wife has a medical degree, and has choosen not to work outside the home (which I have no issues with). However, she cooks and cleans and handles errands.... In exchange I pay all the bills and ensure our financial well being, fix things around the house, take care of the yard and ensure that out retirement is in order. It is up to each couple.... but I personally cannot stand men that complain about the burden of financially supporting their wife/girlfriend.... that is part of being a man.
