You might be standing a bit too close to that moral hand grenade and separately set off some primal protective instincts in the current beau who is already tolerating her still fixating on you. Just considering my parents' Donner Party of a divorce and reconciliation I think the only true north is silence and separation. You may have to go ahead and change bars or whatever.
Thank you for that insight. Not sure what you mean by moral hand grenade. I won't I'll be changing bars because my gf and I are good friends with the bar owner, and the bar has the best 80's and 90's bands in town . However, I do agree that silence and separation is the best way to avoid any issues. It's been over two years since I've had any sort of contact with her. There have been other times that they have showed up, but things were pretty calm. Maybe she was pissed because this time i was not on crutches and I was able to get up and dance and have a great time....nothing out of the ordinary....gf and I did what we always do. The only reason I knew the ex was still talking crap on us was because I called the owner was to let her know that there were some concerns this time so in case anything escalated next time, she would be aware of what is going on. There's been no contact since that night which is perfect. I haven't checked my block lists on phone and email either, so if there were attempts at contact, I don't know about it.
