That's a great way to get friend zoned. If recommend something similar to this but with some kind of hand sex thrown in on top
You ain't getting friend zoned if you are confident. Confidence goes a long way towards everything in life. Just does.
@jbasket There have been plenty of times where I was nervous as **** talking to a girl about to ask her out and at the end it turned out fine. I even asked if I seemed nervous or anything and she told me I seemed calm and confident. Just because you feel nervous doesn't mean it shows. But being confident in saying something vs being 50/50 is a big difference, especially when it comes to intentions (i.e. "Hey! Let's go out for dinner and drinks!" vs "Hey, I'm not sure if you'd be interested or not, but maybe if you're available, if you'd like, we could grab some dinner, maybe drinks?") From my experience the former is much more successful than the latter. And like @tmacfor35 take intention out of it, and see where it goes. If you do have intentions of talking to her as more than a friend, you should make that clear pretty soon though. Depending on your age, a lot of younger girls (college) will friendzone you if you don't make a move or say something. It could be as simple as, "you're cute, I like you, etc. Again, confidence is key, don't be scared, worse thing that happens is she tells you she doesn't feel the same, then you can cut out anything in that dynamic from there. It'll save you a lot of headache and time. A pretty face and good looking body is nice and all, but there's much more out there, trust me! Be yourself, be comfortable with yourself! If you're a cool with yourself, then there is no reason why anyone else should have a problem with you. Women like confidence, nothing says confidence than being comfortable in your own skin. Accept who you are and own it. I feel like I've said more than what you've ask for, so I'm sorry for rambling!
Well thats just girls at clubs or bars. I've had friends like SuperMac34s who also did surprisingly well. Some girls will say yes and it works out. Law of averages and all that. Just don't be surprised if they have an attitude. Those dear ladies probably aren't the trouble they're worth so never take it personally. Everyone's different but it took me a year or two before it sunk in that any benign hits to my ego were absolutely worth it. I think its always good to be a little nervous though so you're more aware. Girls can be nervous dorks too but it's cute when they do it. Anyway, that's just my opinion and it's important to note I've stumbled back asswards into some of my most rewarding relationships.
Lower your expectations. Make the goal to be just to have a good casual conversation. Be nice. If you want strategy, find the ugliest girl in the group and talk to her and give her all the attention, make sure your target is left out of the conversation. I guarantee you that works if you want to get laid. That girl will get jealous quick. But honestly, I'd go with my first piece of advice.
There's no shame in being shot down. Like none. You just move onto the next one. Like others have said start with a conversation but also find a way to make your intentions known that you're not looking for friendship. I mean there are some usual cues to take note of if a woman is interested. She may lean in more to hear you better. Not saying start talking like you're whispering but her leaning in closer is just a sign she genuinely wants to hear what you have to say. If the conversation lasts and you're making her laugh that's a good sign. Another decent way of knowing if she's into you is to go for a touch. I'm not saying straight hand to boob but a touch of the elbow or something. If she pulls back, that's a good sign she's not feeling it. If she doesn't mind though, then chances are it's open game. Just pay attention to social cues and don't expect anything and don't be afraid to get shot down. If somehow later on you get friendzoned, it's not necessarily all bad. Hot girls generally have hot girl friends. If you're not a dick, they probably wouldn't hesitate to recommend you to a friend of theirs that's single.
haha great topic! All good posts. It depends are you trying to date a girl or have fun with her for a few days / week ? What part of town are you meeting these girls? If you pull up in a 92 Geo Metro at Cle or River Oaks and you look like Brad Pitt, personality like Kevin Hart..... still forget about it. The key is really confidence (your tone, if you feel good in your clothes etc) and not giving a damn, think of it like it's no loss if i fail. U gotta be in control. Also @Pen15clubber is right.... don't fall into the friendzone trap. U really do have a time limit on pretty much them knowing you are INTERESTED, even if it's a small jab of flirtation or comment to let them know you want more. The more you drag it & not pull a starting move....they will think you're just a great guy & pal to bring around.
Stop giving a sh*t. . . .. serious .. . . get a 'f*ck it' attitude. . . . she turns you down . . .what did you lose She is rude. . .she is a rancid w**** and a b!tch anyway If she is responsive . . . good . . . 1/3 are not horrible odds. . .. only 1 is 'bad' . . . . and like I said. . .she is a b*Tch any way so don't let that trash *ss hoe in your headspace 9 times out of 10 you will get polite convo or polite not interested. . . . if you cannot take that get out of the game Rocket River Same things go for women approaching guys. . . cause they are some rancid w**** trash as b*tch men too . . ..
excellent idea. . . .. learn to talk to women on line .. . you will feel more confident in real life Rocket River
It's rodeo time. Right now in my opinion is the best time to put your skills (or lack of) to work and meet someone in the Houston area. You have a big area with a big verity of people.
What if she doesn't turn you down but she also is not interested and just keeps you on a string? You are approaching this like chicks think like dudes. They don't. Chicks aren't that transparent.
i agree with this. take it a step further and get laid with said ugliest girl while completely ignoring the target. she'll go crazy for you in no time.
"Shawty, what that mouth do???" In all seriousness though, as others mentioned, stay calm and confident with them; but don't an egotistical douchebag.
