So today, this maintenance guy comes by my desk and gives me a bag of candy that he bought from the cafe downstairs. I found it weird because I just say hello to him and have a few conversations about things in general when I run into him in the building, just like with others. I didn't want to be rude so I accepted it and told him thank you. Last year, I've had a married guy here to buy me candy or cookies until I told him to stop doing that. Do I look like I need candy?? I'm not that fat. Anyway, I tell that to my guy and he jokingly says, "You better flash that ring to that fool! What kind of candy did that punk ass s.o.b. give you? It better be some good high roller candy 'cause you fine and that dude should know that fine people only get good shyt for free." I don't know if he got jealous or threatened. He rarely tells me when he get jealous. I think I would feel jealous if some girl bought him candy but I wouldn't let it bother me unless it's starting to be a repeat occurrence then I will say something. Do you feel jealous or threatened if someone buys your significant other things? Little things like candy or cookies?
Not if it's a random person and a 1 time occurrence. If it's EITHER.. someone they know well and are close to but you always have some underlying suspicion about the other person's intentions.. OR if it's a multi-occurrence.. then it can start to matter. Sorry, I laughed when you wrote what the guy said..
If some dude at my wife's work bought her candy, I'd be pissed. But then, she's a homemaker, so if some dude is buying her candy at my house, then that's already a problem. And honestly, Lady_Di, if some dude had bought me candy and spoke the exact words that you typed to me, in the way that I can only imagine those words being spoken, I would have shoved the candy back in the dude's mouth so he would shut up.
To be fair, if you're talking about the words she wrote in the op, then that's what her guy said about the *other* guy giving her candy. But I like the sentiment on the words
To make this thread more BBS interesting, I'm going to assume "candy" is a euphemism for sex and "maintenance guy" is a euphemism for "maintenance girl"
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I would be PO'd if some douche was buying my girl things...I don't care how trivial they are, it's the principle of the thing...Put it another way, when you're out w/ or w/o your man, do you let strangers buy you drinks? If you were single, eh, but you're not, so why accept them? Are you afraid to hurt someone's feelings? You might do more damage by accepting them IMHO...
rodrick, what does this has to do with me posting? I guess u would be jealous if your girl post here. to be clear, the words I wrote was from my fiance about the guy and he was only joking. he jokes around a lot...
not at all, the complete opposite. i don't get jealous by nature. if he's buying you candy that's fine, i would trust your judgment... i just find it odd that he would become jealous over a bag of candy when you sit at work and post on a forum with a bunch of guys all day.
that's a good point...I won't let a guy to buy me a drink...I just thought candy was nothing to hurt his feelings and MAYBE he was just being nice. I wasn't with my guy that time when the married guy gave me candy. quit making this so scandulous.
i guess any guy would have that. i do to an extent if a guy friend bought my girl stuff depending on what it was i would take offense. junk food/candy? not an issue little things? no biggie dinner? yes any sort of jewelry? oh hell yes
Me and my gf have a rule where we're abnormally rude to the opposite sex. Not crazy rude but just enough be less attractive. It really puts an end to that "work wife/husband" thing before it ever gets started.
Tell your guy that since he's been spending so much time on home renos and repairs, you were feeling a little lonely and that maintenance guy was really sweet and just trying to cheer you up.
